Abortion Support

It helps to talk them out a little...

I thankfully got great feedback on the original board I posted on, and was redirected here.  I didn't know this board existed.  Instead of copying and pasting my original post and reply, I'm going to post the link.

I'm just reaching out, as everyone else, and feeling a little helpless right now...

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-prmay10n&msg=777.1&x=y

whoa mommybrain, that is a LOT of medical details... you are very thorough. you've been through a lot-- but since you've already decided to have an abortion why all the worry and numbers? you should definitely keep your appointments to find out if it's tubal or a ruptured cyst or whathaveyou... an abortion without proper diagnosis is dangerous!! You have very good reasons for wanting to terminate-- abortion will prevent the problems you mention while it creates a new set in the aftermath. for ex. as far as having more time with your boyfriend... have you looked at the statistics of couples who stay together after abortion? on this entire board there is maybe one or two. It's great you have a lot of information on your medical situation-- I would really encourage you to look into the emotional aspects of abortion as well.

and take good care of yourself :)

When you had decided to have an abortion, how did you feel about it? When you thought you miscarried, how did you feel about it?

After my abortion I had nothing but relief - maybe mixed with being sad I was in that situation - and sad for the baby that wouldn't be - but mostly relief. It's helped me not regret what I did.

I guess since you already made a choice, I'd think about how that made you feel, and go from there.

You've got every reason in the world to go through with it. I don't know anyone who would fault you.

oh....

if you're having second thoughts, don't move ahead, don't do anything until you can feel less torn.

take some quiet time and get with yourself... stop listening to everyone else... go to your deepest self, the answer will be there. Be true to yourself and everything will be okay eventually. but if you panic you'll be sorry.

I know this is such a hard juncture, we're here. take care of yourself