Domestic Abuse Support

Could you see yourself dating someone with the same name as your abusive ex? I have gone out a couple of times with a guy name Marc. He spells it differently then my ex at least and his name really is Marco but he goes by Marc. I guess I could call him Marco but I am not as bothered by the name thing as I was at first. This is a fix up type of deal and the person who did it knew I was going to have issues with the name and told me a different name at first but I was also still seeing the guy in PA at the time this person started trying to play match maker. Now I am no longer seeing the guy in PA and am not sure if I am even ready for someone else and the name thing is only an issue now when I talk about the ex too. I was on the phone with a friend of mine this morning and decided the ex needs a new name!! lol. Chaos help me out I need something good like the orge so far the only thing I can think of is donkey but not that way, lol.

So far he seems like a nice guy. I haven't told him much. Just enough so he knows I was in an abusive marriage and what the ex is in jail for. The last part was to let him know why he doesn't get to see the kids. I had to tell him that much so he knew I wasn't being unreasonable with not letting the kids have anything to do with the ex. I also told him about the last attack to explain that my children, especially Erick, are very protective of me and part of why Erick is the way he is.

Another thing I had to deal with is he was once a cop. I don't like cops, lol. But he no longer is one so it is ok.

The name use to be a trigger and I am thinking since I am ok with this now it is one more trigger I have over come. This isn't the first Mark I have been around since leaving the ex and the others have triggered feelings. In fact the Dr that removed my wisdom teeth was Dr Mark and I really was not happy about looking at his name tag as he was removing me teeth!! lol

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haha. I am.  Cooks name is the same as the ogre. At first I couldnt even call him by name. Took a year. haha. Whats worse is that cooks son is a jr. so the same name, his sis's husband is the same and his best friend is the same. Yeah. Real fun to get used to. The worst part of it I think, was peoples faces when I would say something positive and they thought I was talking about the ogre. haha. You do get used to it. But man, it was tough at first.

heh, I dont think I can post the names I got running through my mind for you ex. haha. Ummm, I'll try to clean em up first before I throw anything out there. Donkey isnt bad. Pretty apt. actually.

I agree donkey is fitting. I could always nick name the new guy. He did have one for awhile because how we met was he was working the consession stand at an auction and I love hot dogs. Later that day my dad was laughing at me because he claimed the guy was flirting with me and it went over my head. We talked for like 30 seconds! But he became hot dog even after I knew his name. And he is a firefighter so I could refer to him as that but I have gotten over the name thing I just don't want anyone thinking I am saying anything nice about my ex!

I am glad I am not the only one who was bothered by the name thing.

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