Shi,
Just wanted to let you know that he has thrown away all the porn in his house. He had 15 years worth and the last of it was picked up yesterday. In the last three weeks he had one night where he faultered, and he immediately emailed me the next day. We had made love earlier that evening, and his addictive voice told him he could look at the porn because it would not have an affect on our lovemaking since we would not have the opportunity of a few days. He also told himself he didn't need to tell me about it.
Well, our relationship is build on honesty in order to preserve trust. We have both kept that committment for 6 years now, so he was wracked with the shame and guilt of it. I think I reacted pretty well. I certainly did not think he could do this cold turkey. I didn't even ask him to give it up, I just told him I felt hurt but the amount he used in order to stimulate himself when before he made love with me. That he felt he wasn't stimulated enough BY me.
And the slip up motivated him to remove everything from his house. He realizes that he can not have it around at all. Just like alcohol, it seduces him and he can't moderate the amount.
Anyway, for the past week, he has felt great. Everything is out of the house, and when those brown envelopes come w/ mail order catalogues inside, he says he just immediately throws them into the trash. I know he may have set backs, but I think he is doing really well.
Pam
