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Fear of authority?

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  1/14/2008 9:44 am
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I'm not sure how much anxiety any of you experience, but I am curious to know if you get anxious or nervous around people of authority? Like bosses, supervisors, professors, etc. I started my new job last week and already I feel like a bumbling fool around the managers there. I ask questions I already got answers to, say lame stuff and I'm sure my feeling awkward comes across to them loud and clear. Even around the other coworkers I feel anxious because I don't know them. I usually don't know what to say to people so I just stay quiet. Well, that usually leads people to think I'm stuck up. I just don't know what to say! I see how friendly and warm others can be, all laughing and touching on each other. I'm not like that. Anyway, I hate that my lack of confidence comes across when I'm around these folks and that I feel so anxious. Any of you have issues like this??
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I know I feel very self consious around new people, and those in authority. Once I form a relationship, I feel ok, but my last boss, I never connected with, she was distant. I think I know what you are talking about.

Hang in there, you'll do fine, I'm sure.

Stephanie

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2. Having the right to choose – without it there is no motivation

3. Knowing that you are not a label or a diagnosis. You are a living, changing person, not an object.

4. Speaking for ourselves. When others speak for us we are devalued.

 
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5. Establishing our own homes in the community where we can choose our roommate or live alone.

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  1/16/2008 1:33 pm
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I have a lot of anxiety, especially in the workplace where I think I am constantly being judged, so I can relate. I think that a lot of insecurity is in our perception and doesn't come across as loud and clear to others as it does to ourselves. I don't think it's a bad thing to ask questions if it helps us get our jobs done. I think the interpersonal relationships with co-workers will come with time and babysteps. You can always start by saying "hi, how are you?" and starting with that is a good first step.

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  1/17/2008 9:02 am
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Thank you both for your response. I realize it stems from insecurity and it will get better with time. ((HUGS))
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