Congrats!
I had my BA 5 weeks ago tomorrow, I also had some lipo on my flanks at the same time. Honestly NO ONE has noticed that I had one, except my DH! I'm assuming since you don't want people to notice you are not getting anything HUGE. I had my surgery on a Friday and by Monday I was up and about. We took the kids to see a movie and out to lunch. Tuesday, my DH had to go back to work and I was left to handle my 2 and 4 year olds alone. Really, it was fine. Granted I didn't pick them up but I was able to fix them lunch, get them buckled in their car seats, drive, make the bed, throw in some laundry and put dishes in the dishwasher. Our house is for sale, so we had to clear out for a showing that night and I had to pick up the toys and make things presentable.
By Thanksgiving you will have had a few weeks to recover and you should be pretty much back to your normal routine. The only thing I didn't do until just this last weekend was vacuum the house.
As far as tops, you kind of need to wait and see what feels good to you. Until the tape comes off, not much feels good, at least that was my opinion. I did buy 2 wireless bras but other than that I didn't buy anything new and I didn't buy the bras until 2 weeks after my surgery. I wore the tank tops with the built-in bras for a while because that was what was comfortable to me, then I just layered over that according to the weather that day.
