Wow, sounds like your doctor doesnt want to be bothered with you anymore. Crazy!
I started using the thick cocoa butter and the lotion by the 5th week or so, so I would say you are good to go if you want to start. Everything should be pretty well closed up, just be careful of that one spot. I would use the thick gooky cocoa butter at night; rub it in my hands to soften up and the rubbed it all over the scar areas. In the morning before I got dressed I used the cocoa butter lotion with vitamin e and I really think those 2 things helped my scars soften up and heal better. I used it religously for about a year and still use the lotion at times cause it really makes my girls soft.
I did buy Mederma and used that for about a week. I didn't care for it, it made my skin feel dry and tight. Plus its really expensive where as the cocoa butter lotion can be bought pretty inexpensively. I think if you eat right and get plenty of fluids, this helps the healing go better.
Good luck with your healing.
Nancy