Caregiver's Support

I am depressed so my situation with my mom is harder at times than it should be. Her behavior is so obsessive but i guess only routine to her. Hearing is hit or miss. i get disgusted thinking some of it is selective. She wants to be able to do things like i am able to do. I encourage activity but being realistic also. She started fixing dinner last night very suddenly with no discussion. I was in the middle of a project. Maybe she was trying to help. She used plastic for something that needed to be in a dish for heating. She made a salad but put tons of her favorite dsg on it when it was a big salad we could have shared for a couple of days. Thin pieces of meat in a skillet were black and leathery. She really should not use the stove. I think they would have been similar out of the microwave but maybe less dangerous. She put lemon pepper all over the family size sweet potatoes as if only she were going to eat them. So I am not sure where she was coming from on this sudden meal prep. Maybe she was doing the best she could. She makes a face at 90 percent of what i say to her. As if i am finding fault with her always. Negative and it brings me down.
It bothers me that maybe some of our last days ( we never know) are so disturbing to me.
I know the meal story does not seem like it warrants complains but you would of had to be here.

Tired Tired Tired
Yes i am ready for a break
But was not going to take it until the end of the month

Hi Julie,

I can relate to what you went through with the meal.  It can be scary when you know they probably shouldn't be in the kitchen using stoves, etc.  I can remember when my mother was ironing my dad's dirty (urine soaked) slacks.  She thought she had washed them.  It was a mess.  You do the best you can to try to oversee everything and keep everyone safe.

Thanks for coming back and updating us.

 

Calley7