Child-Free by Choice

You could certainly say I have a huge outlet for channeling my maternal instincts. I work with kids and honestly, they overwhelm me. If I decide to have kids, I'll have to change my career. ;-) BUT having said that....

I've thought of this more over the last couple weeks, and I seriously think I am with the wrong guy. He has put a negative angle on everything in my life. I feel that if I were with a different guy, my outlook on *everything* would be different.

I used to encounter children more often in my profession, but now I rarely leave the office, so it's a rare day that I even see a child at work.

I'm glad you were able to find some clarity, hp09lily! Looking forward to hearing more from you.

I suppose if you are figuring out that the guy you're with may not be for you, then that should nix the idea of kids (at least with *him* and at least for the short-term).

I think if someone really wants a child, they will find any excuse to bring them into the world, regardless of the state of the planet, etc. That's not saying that's not selfish on their part.

I think ultimately, after one thinks it over properly, that a woman should decide to bring a child into the world who acknowledges that she can and will become selfless and has the urge to raise a new life and to see it thrive, no matter the foreseen or unforeseen challenges.

Anyone who wants a kid because they just 'want one' is too selfish to have a child, because they are do it because *they* want it.

A child needs the backing and the support and the selflessness and 110% from both parents; anything less than those things assured that child, will not be sufficient.

Julie