It wasnt this hard the 1st couple times.

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clawandag

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It wasnt this hard the 1st couple times.

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Here is my situation. I have had 2 kids by not the best choices in my then young life. I am 31 and have been married for 3.5 years to the right man who has 2 daughters of his own. We have been trying for over 4 yrs to have a baby and nothing is happening. I didnt have to try with my first 2. I am so disappointed in myself and very upset. He was a little disappointed in the beginning but he says we have 4 kids anyway no big deal. I want this so bad though. I am not getting any younger is how I see it. We tried going to a specialist. They ran test no big problems except my progesterone is low. That is it. I thougnt this shouldnt be no problem with medication. Still no baby. I have stopped the treatments for over a year now and I am ready to start again. I dont know what to expect this time. I cant afford the $10,000 baby and my insurance doesnt pay for medicine. I have to pay out of pocket, every time. The clomid is cheap but after 3 times, my doctor went for the shots and those were more expensive. I really thought I got better results with the clomid then the shots but it's like they wouldnt try that method again. Please if anybody knows what I am going through and could offer some advice, or help I would really appreciate it.

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What role does stress play in your life? How stressful is it right now? My aunt tried for the first 6 years of her marriage and nothing worked. After the third IVF try, which brought her to tears, she told her husband that that was it. They were going to stop trying, and they were going on a vacation. When they came back from vacation they were pregnant, and they had three children naturally.

Perhaps your mind and body need to release some of the stress, disappointments and expectations, too in addition to the medical treatments? Just a thought, but I will keep you in my thoughts!

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I'm with Poppy on the stress issues. Sometimes we place a huge burden on ourselves when wanting something so badly. That is not to say that I don't feel how painful this is to you. Nor, do I feel you are wrong in wanting a baby.
I can tell you that though you are 31, it does get harder as we age. Also, has anyone ever mentioned your physical health, your diet or your weight? All these things factor in. I have known women who lost weight & were able to conceive & one woman had to gain weight. She was very thin.
I worked in the operating room w/a woman who wanted a baby badly. Her dh assured her he married her because he loved her. That being childless did not make her appear any differently in his eyes. She suffered greatly & spent time in therapy. Finally they decided to adopt when infertility treatments didn't work. Before she brought the first adopted baby home, she left the operating room to work in the ER. Better & more regular hours for a mom. She became pregnant. Her second adoption was already in the works. That was 3 children very close in age! Later, she gave birth to her second child, making them 4 kids. Noone will ever know if the decision to adopt took the pressure/stress off. Or the change in jobs may have helped, as there are waste gases & other chemical exposures that might have prevented pregnancy while working in the OR. Some people say it was Mother Nature. She believes it was God's answer to her prayers.
I hope & pray you get the baby that you want. GL & GBU! (((hugs))) jan