discussion title: paranoid begginer
I recently started having sex, it has only happened three times and a condom was used each time. There was no apparent breakage or leakage. However, I can not stop worrying about being preagnant. I just think of a tiny invisible rupture somewhere that might have allowed sperm in me without being noticed. I am seriously making myself crazy. My period is not due for another week, but I am just so anxious and nervous to get it! I am worried that I'm going to delay my period by worrying about it so much. Does anyone have any information that might help calm my nerves?
message #: 5889.2 in response to 5889.1
Hi, and welcome. You could very easily cause your period to be late by being so anxious about it. Did your partner use the condom as soon as he became hard, or just put it on before penetrating you? Don't forget that there is sperm present in pre-cum, the male lubrication which oozes from the penis before ejaculation.I don't really know what else to tell you, except that it seems highly unlikely that if there was no apparent leakage and you were using the condoms correctly, that you are pregnant. I was going to refer you to the Birth Control Board, but I see you've posted over there, but with a bit more information. There are many methods of tracking your fertility, you'll probably find some help on that board. However, if your current partner is not a steady boy-friend, it is possible he is sleeping with other women too, so I sincerely hope you continue to insist upon his use of condoms in order to avoid, if possible, a sexually transmitted disease. I also hope that even if he isn't a steady, but a FWB (friend with benefits) that you can talk openly about this with him, and make it clear to him that if he is sleeping with other women, you'd like to know, so that you can make up your mind as to the risks involved for you, personally. I know you didn't ask for this information and advice, but under the circumstances, since this is a Sexual Health Board, I'm passing it along. If you have already thought these things through, then so much the better for you; if you haven't, then I'll leave you to think about them.
message #: 5889.3 in response to 5889.1
If your going to continue having sex, I would recommend that you always use two methods of birth control at a time. I know what you mean about becoming paranoid about being pregnant, so I use birth control and a condom together usually. You could also pair up spermicide with a condom, or spermicide and birth control for instance. If you and your partner are not monogamous, or he was not a virgin, then it may also be a good idea to get him tested for stds. But you may feel a bit awkward about asking him to do that lol.
Just try and relax. The odds are in your favour that your not pregnant, so make an attempt to just think about other things for a while. Don't freak out if you period is a little late, because they're not always regular, and it could be caused by stress.
message #: 5889.4 in response to 5889.3
Hi, and welcome. Thanks for chiming in, but awkward or not, it seems to me essential in this day and age to be able to ask a partner about his or her past experiences, and even ask they be tested for STDs. If he or she refused, it would make me very uneasy.
CL – Sexual Health
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message #: 5889.5 in response to 5889.3
thanks for your input!!! I haven't checked this post for a while... well I am not preagnant!!! yay lol just paranoid, but yes, I need a second birth control method!
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