Herpes

I just met the greatest guy and we've been dating for 2 weeks. I have already had sex with him with a condom and he has given me oral sex with no protection. I now have to tell him that I have herpes II and I am so upset and worried about it I feel physically sick. I get herpes outbreaks so rarely I actually forgot I had it for years. I have also had unprotected sex for years in between breakouts and have not infected anyone - at least that's what the test say. So I guess that does not matter because there is still always a risk and I am so scared that my new guy will be angry I didn't tell him before we had sex which I guess he has every right to be.

Anyway - I am seeing the doctor on Tuesday to go over all the info I need again and how to tell my new partner. I am wondering if I should even do this in person or just over the phone in case I have to deal with him just walking out on me or wanting me to leave. This is just so hard cause this guy is amazing and I don't want to lose him.

bluesneakers

It's always tough to tell somebody new.  I don't have any advice... just big ((((((hugs)))))).  I hope it all goes well.  I would want to do it in person just so you could 'read' his reaction.  Be prepared to give him time to think about it and maybe even research it himself.  My dh had to and did.  Good luck!

           

                          

                         

                               

I agree with Julie, in person is always the best.  That way, as she said, you can "read" his reaction, but also, so that he can see that you are sincere when you apologize for not telling him before you had intimate relations with him.  One suggestion that I have would be to have, in hand, information about this virus for him to read and possibly answer any questions that he may have.  And yes, be prepared for him to be mad, hurt, upset, whatever, but hopefully after you provide him with the facts it will ease his mind enough for ya'll to have a conversation and work through this.

Good luck and big hugs,