Hi every1, Ive been lurking for a while and posted a couple of times.I have a question about something my Fiance brought up...well pointed out the other day.She was talking about cross addictions or something like that. She went on to say that though I havent had a drink in over 6 years that Im a shopaholic. I do most of the shopping at the Supermarket but thats due to the fact that there are somethings I dont eat due to my religion. Also I have been into cooking since Reagan was the president and I collect cookbooks and enjoy kitchen gadgets.So when does 1 go from picky shopper to shopaholic? I would point out that I earn more than she does and I dont have to be as bargain oriented as she is when I shop. I also do most of the cooking also. I just hope she doesnt decide that I have become a sexaholic as well. She has more sobriety than I do so does that automaticly make her a cornucopia of recovery related info? Any 1 have thoughts they would care to share? Gods peace and blessings on all who post here. Wuzzy
Well that depends....usually everytime I cook dinner I make a trip to the store.Sometimes after watching 1 of my cooking shows like americas test kitchen or 1 of those on food t.v. I will head off to the market to gather ingredients for whatever recipe Im charged up about.The amount I spend is never the same ya know if Im doing barbequed hamburgers I spend less than if Im preparing Shrimp Remoulade.Lynn says I have more cookbooks than her mom....so what if you like to cook as I do they come in handy and she gives me a bit of grief over the kitchen gadgets but I use them a lot. I think she trips on the amount I spend because b4 we started cohabing she was on a real tight budget...she brings home a little more than 300 a week. I make 1000 a week,more if I work overtime so I have more disposable income. Im not kidding you 1 bit about this but she got upset because I wouldnt tell her how much the Diamond earings I bought her for Valentines day cost! I mean hell if I want to marry her I have to get the ring out of a gumball machine or what lol. Ya know sometimes I just dont understand her but I love her dearly in spite of it. Thank you for listening,Gods peace and blessings on you,your family and your friends. Wuzzy
So let me make sure I have this right: You aren't spending beyond your means. You aren't buying food and letting it go to waste. You are using what you purchase. Are you shopping as a way to not deal with an emotion or situation? From what you've shared so far, you don't sound like a shopaholic. Do you buy other things too or strictly food?
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Well sometimes I buy a stuffed monkey doll or a monkey figurine of some kind because Lynn likes them.. also we have a daughter between us and she says I spoil her but Im Dad and thats my job and Im pretty good at it if I do say so lol. Sometimes I just out of the blue will buy some flowers and not cuz shes mad at me or anything but just because. She has said that she doesnt feel secure about our relationship as it is now and I dont know why...she drives 1 of my cars,sleeps with me,eats with me,goes out to dinner with me and my dog is wild about her.She always going on about where would I be if you got mad and left...Im happy and Ive told her so just dont mess with my kitchen gadgets or my cookbooks because Im really into cooking.....wreck the car! I dont care. But dont damage the flavor wave oven or the showtime rotiserie!!!! lmao Do ya think it would help if I got an engagement ring and asked her if she would like to seal the deal??? Imean I would...as long as she doesnt grill me about how much the ring cost! I mean we have lived together for a while so if she needed money for something I wouldnt say no and who doesnt want to be able to provide more than the just the basics for his family. My career was being rebuilt when we got back together and I wasnt doing as well as I am now so I like to do things to show her some gratitude for sticking with me through the leaner times we have shared . Is this making sense? What do ya think?Wuzzy
