Menopause & Perimenopause

Hi and welcome to the board!  I am wondering how your husband was before.  Is it just that he doesn't 'get' it?  I would suggest that you go to the Menopause Oasis, there is a link in my signature line.  There you will find a men's page.  There you will find resources that will help explain it to him.  No guarantee that it will change his attitude though...  <sigh> 

It is too bad some men and even some women, feel that it is in our heads because they have not dealt with it! Not all women have problems with this time of life...  so they don't see what the big deal with is either and want the rest of us to get over it and move on. 

Perimenopause is the time before meno.  It can last upto 10-15 years.  The normal age range for meno is 46-53 with 51 being the average. 

Also at the Menopause Oasis, you will find a list of almost 60 symptoms that we know of.  Wonder what your h would think of that list? 

Come back anytime with questions, to share, vent, or just hang out.... Someone is usually here!  And remember... you are NOT alone!!!!

For more info on menopause and perimenopause visit:
cl-klrambo's Menopause Oasis

Remember....you are NOT alone!!!!!

 

 

 

 

Hello, shazzyb37, and welcome to our board - and our little corner of the world.  Although I'm not too sure that corner is "little" anymore!  There seem to be more and more of us who are willing to admit we have "arrived" and are trying to cope with it the best we can.

Cheryl already suggested that you visit our Menopause Oasis - in particular the Men's Page.  You may use that bright blue link to take you straight there!  There are a couple of great books (actually written by men for men) listed there that you might want to buy and leave out for your DH to read!

Just try to remember this, as he makes his barbed comments -- his time is coming! It won't be long (unless your DH is an avid exercise buff) until his waist begins to spread, his belly becomes a paunch, his skin begins to sag, and he finds it more difficult to get up from the low couch, or climb those stairs. Yepper...you can then sit back and smirk at his discomfort too!

Men often think (in their convoluted way) that if they make snide, undercover, remarks about our middle-aged "flaws" that we'll *do something* about them to make them go away.  Sure!!!!  Don't we wish we could!  Have you told him flat out just how his remarks are bothering you?  Please do not think for one moment that he'll understand that point all on his own!

Meanwhile, please know that you are welcome here anytime ~ to vent (it really does help!), to ask questions, to share experiences, or to just hang out with other gals who understand, and care....

Co-cl for
Menopause & Perimenopause Board
and
Fifty & Up Board

A list of Menopause related links at iVillage 'Total Health' are listed here...

 

You are loved ~~ far more than you may ever know!

Hello,

I am having trouble with my husband and trying to tell him how hard it is going through menopause is...I like it really cold in the house and he tells me that I am selfish and only think about myself....and every night I end up sometime during the middle of the night taking all of my clothes while sleeping....he wont let me turn on the ceiling fan, so I point a small fan right on my face, neck, and chest....I wake up in the middle of the night with all my covers dripping with my sweat...I am just miserable....but I just don't think there is an easy way to explain it to our men....maybe if we sit them down and tell them we really need to talk to them about something and try to get their full attention may work....I am 49 and my husband is 55....

Annie19782009

Please read the responses and check out the info we gave her about info for men.  You are NOT selfish to want to be comfortable.  Tell you dh it is easier for him to pile another blanket on his side but you can't take off more than down to bare skin!  Does he not see how uncomfortable you are?  Maybe you should snuggle when you are hot and sweaty.  lol 

For more info on menopause and perimenopause visit:
cl-klrambo's Menopause Oasis

Remember....you are NOT alone!!!!!