Hello - I have HPV. I was diagnosed a little more than two years ago, had warts, but have been symptom free for over a year and a half. Two months ago, I met a really great guy and we have started dating. Things naturally progressed forward, including physically. We got to the point where sex was a possibility so we had "the talk." It was really hard and I was visibly upset about it but he was very understanding and supportive. He said he didn't think differently of me, nor did he want to stop dating.
He said all the right things, but when you get down to it he still won't have sex with me. He says he doesn't know enough about it. I try to educate him but then I just feel like I'm pressuring him. He says he is "ok with it" and still really likes me and wants to be with me. But what guy wants to date a girl he won't have sex with? Am I just jaded or is he bound to leave me sooner or later?
His withholding makes me feel gross too. Every time we hook up and do other things I am reminded that a DISEASE is preventing him from being with me fully, and that if I wasn't tainted we'd be having sex freely.
I don't know what to do. I really like him. He is such a great guy and we have fun in every other way. Since I have not had symptoms in such a long time, isn't there a small chance he could even get it? Would it even cause symptoms? In this day and age, couldn't he already have it and not even know?
How has other people dealt with this? I feel like I'm not ever allowed to be in a meaningful sexual relationship again :(
