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I am at a loss

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  Oct-15 2:47 am
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In light of the crappy economy, some part of me just doesn't know how to feel about this.  I'm 35, divorced, living with my boyfriend, and while I am insanely happy with my love life, I am miserable with my financial situation.  I can't afford to be out of work.  My career student ex husband has decided to go to school for another two years.  He's 45 with a pregnant 22 year old girlfriend and on public assistance which, according to the rules of my former home state, makes me responsible to pay child support.  I won't even go into the details about him, it just makes me mad.  Suffice it to say, he is more employable than me and chooses to leech off the system rather than work to support our 7 year old daughter.  Why break the pattern, I've been supporting him for around 5 years now. (grrrrr)....but I digress.....I'm barely into a new job (to the tune of about a week), and I am completely out of my league, not to mention really not happy.  I don't want to stay, but I can't afford to leave.  I'm doing work that my doc says I shouldn't be doing because of the spine abnormalities i have.  I just don't know if I should try to stick it out because the pay and benefits are good, or if I should leave and find something less physically stressful. 

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Hi Shel and welcome. I'm sorry you are going through that, it sounded very similar to my friends situation. She is now separated from her husband, soon to be ex - in our state you have to be separated for a year before you can file for divorce. Well right at that year mark, he got a barely 20 yr old pregnant (he's 32 or 33) and they have 2 children together AND he has another child which he has no contact with from a previous relationship... I think that just gives her more ground to stand on because they aren't technically divorced yet - although they did file for separation before that came to light.

Anyhow - you aren't alone out there, there are others going through similar or the same as you. Are you able to look for another job while still working at the one are you currently at? You mentioned having spine problems, does that qualify you for some sort of disability that you could use until you find another job? Just some ideas that I thought of. You said you are living with your boyfriend - have you talked to him about your situation? Maybe he can come up with some ideas to help as well.

Good luck with what you decide to do. I know it can be hard, and sometimes we have to work at a job we hate because we are responsible adults and have bills to pay! But things will get better and while the job market does suck, there are still jobs out there. Maybe you will find something else quickly and won't have to stay at your current job long!

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