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My workmate talks constantly

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  Oct-7 9:10 pm

Hi there!  I have to offer you a HUG first of all, as I know exactly what you are going thru.    I have a person like that in my office, she is not even in my department, but her cubicle is right across from mine.    She can see me all day long and even sits there and watches me work.  I have been trying to avoid her lately, she is a drag, same thing, sad home life (husband doesn't work, kids are all messed up) and that is all I hear all day long.  I work as an accountant for a bank, and her team does Document Imaging, an easy job that doesn't take a lot of thinking to do, so I know she is bored out of her mind, I get it, however, I need to concentrate on my job, as I have to provide accurate reports to our business lines and customers.    I am the closest person she has to a friend, but like you, I feel like crying on my way to work.. I can't stand this person, I feel like she tries to steal every moment I have.  I even had to strategize which way I go to the restroom or even to get coffee without her asking me if she can "tag along".. I hate her, but I cant' tell her this, she is emotionally sick,she claims to be bi-polar and I believe she really is (witnessed some weird behaviors at work).  I can't really offer much advice, but just let you know that I understand your frustration.  Perhaps you can talk to her manager? or have you considered asking to move to a different office?   Hope this gets better for you soon.. BIG HUG coming your way..
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  Oct-9 12:19 am

Hi mayrac. In reading these posts I can see that although the lady is annoying she is rather well liked by the boss. That does not bode well. She has problems and could use counseling. In the meantime she is keeping others from their work.

I believe that I would try to talk to the boss once more. It may not help but should be done in a kind caring way and be documented. Everything should be documented incase the boss gets angry which he will probably so.

The employee that is being disturbed by the excessive  talking is actually being harrassed. Harrassment takes many forms but to repetedly talk to someone when they do not want to hear it is a form of harrassment. And the boss is allowing it to go on. That is why I would document everything.

It is a shame  that many people bring their problems to work but it happens. I believe I would look for something else just incase things get worse. Not having the boss understand is really unfortunate. Take care. MaryAnne

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Thanks Maryanne.  As a matter of fact, I did talk to her boss about it and told her should she continue this I will open up a Harrassment case with HR.  I am very busy at my job and can't afford to waste time with this woman.  She needs help and we have a FREE counseling service which she has not taken advantage off.  I even suggested she called, but she has not (of course, cuz dumb me kept listening to her rantings).  I am done with her, so much, I bring my ipod to work every day and plug in and totally ignore her, even though I know she sits there starting at me. She's very scary and I don't know how to break up the cycle, just by ignoring her, hopefully she gets the hint.   More to come on this horrible saga.  I don't like to say this, but I have hate feelings towards her.. I can't feel sorry for her any longer....
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