Hey,
>>pretty harsh blow
Yeah, I'd say it was. I'd be asking him if he didn't like that how would he not like ANY at all. How picky can a guy be? Unless he's got other FWBs that's keeping him busy 24/7, most guys would be happy getting it anyway let alone feeling they can dictate position. The only possible exception I could possibly see is that some guys do need a certain positon or another right at the end to finish off easier. But as far as any random position at the beginning or the middle of an encounter, he's got nerve.
You know girly, being critical of a relationship is a loser especially when you don't know ALL the aspects of it. But at that risk, are you sure you really NEED this "fwb" that bad? He obviously said the you on top thing in such a way that it wasn't sensitive and caring and that it did make you feel it was "pretty harsh blow" or you wouldn't have posted it. And from your other post about it turns out that it's HIM that's suggesting that you have a threesome with him and some other random guy. "FWB" "Friends with Benefits". Well what kind of "Friend" would want to pimp you out to him and another guy to get their kicks at your expense, and what kind of "Benefit" is the sex if he's critical of it?
I'm certainly not critical of FWB relationships. As a matter of fact I think they play an important part of a single girl's sex life in certain situations. Women that can look at them with a healthy attitude and take them for what their worth can use them and appreciate them. Coming off a bad relationship and rebounding and not being ready to commit again, or too busy and seriously involved with a career or education or the prospect of having to move and not wanting to commit to a serious relationship, or just wanting to be on the prowl and while you're looking, they meet a need. But it doesn't mean that when you are in one, you should get used either or always feel hurt or confused. That is so not worth it. All ethical puritans may not agree with the FWB concept as some of us do, but you still never want to be in one unless you can keep you dignity at all times. That's what it's all about and after that it's no one elses business what you do. There's always two ways of looking at things and for the woman in a FWB whether there's a serious commitment or not it should still be something she uses for her advantage and not let it get twisted around that the guy is getting all the "benefit" part.
Good luck with however you work it out.
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