I'm sorry for your situation. Truly. It sounds like it was awful. I suppose that learning of a spouse's infidelity can mean various things to various people in various different marriages, often depending upon the circumstances....but I don't suppose it's ever a pleasant thing. You said when your son was in 8th grade, but I don't know how long ago that was. I'm not asking you to tell me, only saying that I don't know if that was recent or in the distant past. Either way, though, the only thing time would do is allow it to sort of scab over or scar up; it doesn't mean it was any less painful when it was going on, even if it happened twenty years ago.
You're probably right about the whole "the wife's forgiven me, why can't you (the voters)?" I already realized that...I guess I just wonder why political wives go along with it so consistently. I mean, sure, to save hubby's career, I suppose. Only I wonder why there aren't more wives who decide that hubby - AND his career - can go jump in the lake at that point. I guess if they've - as you say - worked out an arrangement, that their marriages are simply business affairs and such a revelation wouldn't bother the wife other than the irritation of the public spectacle, then perhaps that's the reason for some of them "standing by their man." But if some of those marriages were (at least theoretically), based upon love and trust and all the traditional components of marriages, then I can't help thinking that the NATURAL reaction for these wives would be much more like yours...and that's why I wonder why at least a few of 'em don't just decide "screw you, dude, you're going through this on your own; don't expect me to do the "loyal wifey" bit." KWIM?
BTW, you have mail at your IV-linked address.
