Losing Weight

Hi All,

I am new to this board.  I am working really really hard to lose weight.  I am struggling to lose the first 10 lbs. of the 60 or so that I want to lose.  One of my co-workers and my boss were talking in her cube which is right in front of mine.  Co-worker says "I have to go workout today because I had to wear my 'fat' pants again."  My boss says, "Yeah, it doesn't take much".  What irritates me so much is that they are both really really skinny.  I would say neither of them weighs more than 120 lbs.  They are always saying things like this and it bugs me.  I just get so tired of skinny people who think they are fat when they aren't - it's like they need some reassurance or something.  It is frustrating when those of us who are fat and are working to lose weight have to be around skinny people who think they're fat but aren't.  Grrr!!!

Hi, I understand your frustration. It's annoying to have to overhear that.

Can I offer another perspective? They are only talking within the context of themselves... They aren't making comments about other people. Skinny people often suffer from self-esteem issues that cause them to have a skewed perspective of themselves even if their perspective of others is realistic. They may actually believe that they are fat because they have body image problems. I let an eating disorder take over my life at one point so I have an idea of how they feel, I'm sure they don't have any idea that they are bothering you but they are trying to make themselves feel better by commiserating about something completely unrealistic.

I wish you well in your weight loss and I'm sorry you have to listen to other people complain when they have nothing to complain about. That's always really frustrating.

Yeah, that was me :(. I was a size 0 in high school and up until I was 20 something. But I had a really bad childhood and had low self esteem. Thinking about it now, I know how crazy I was. Seriously a size 0 and I wore baggy tee shirts thinking I was fat. I was scared to wear any type of "girlie" shirts that would show my waist. Now I would give anything to be that size again.

But you are talking about adult, mature women, that shouldn't be insecure. And to be devils advocate maybe they were looking to reassure each other, idk.

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First, (((HUGS))). I know it can be an heartbreaking feeling. I am one of three girls. I am the heaviest, ok, the only heavy one. It kills me to be around them. I was never a skinny person, but even at an 'overweight' weight, I looked good. I'm not a small boned person. But now I'm overweight in a way that it truly shows. I have 25 pounds to get to my pre-pregnancy/marriage weight. (I have lost a lot of weight, gained it back, lost again, so it's a constant battle.)

My sister, who weighs 130-140 is a size small. We went on a trip together and she was trying to tell me how fat her thighs are. Uhm, don't want to hear it. What happens when I hear skinny people talking about how fat they are--it makes me feel like I'm even bigger than I am, and I start thinking how they must perceive me as some huge, fat cow. Now, I know I have self-esteem issues, but I think anyone in the same situation would start to wonder how others perceive them if they weigh 100 pounds soaking wet and think they are fat.

So, just so you know, you're not alone.

I like the idea of bringing in cookies, lol, but then I'd have to force myself not to eat any. ;) Ignoring can be hard, but just keep moving and doing what you're doing. It is the best feeling in the world when someone notices your weight-loss. You never have to get forced reassurance from another person, it comes naturally on its own. And that's the best kind. :)