Walk On, Rock On to a New You

Good morning everyone!

I hope I don't ruin anyone's breakfast, but I need to vent a bit; maybe some of you have had the same experience.

I went to visit my Dad this past weekend in Oxford, PA (southern Chester County), and had a really nice time, for the most part.  Dad, and his friend, Jane, were VERY happy with my progress.  Dad has a treadmill, and I used it Saturday evening (2 miles in 53:53, and 1 mile in 26:21). 

Yesterday, my sister came up from Elkton, MD, and went to church with all of us.  Afterwards, we went out to dinner.  Before we went into the restaurant, she made a remark about me having spaghetti, which is my favorite food.  Dad said we'd had it the night before, and my sister said, "Well, she can have it again, two days in a row is nothing to her."  Well guess what?  I had a salad, turkey and mashed potatoes with gravy.  And I had the SENIOR SIZE, which is a much smaller portion than the regular size.  And I was full afterward and didn't have dessert, even though my sister asked me if I wanted it.

Now, my sister is very overweight.  A couple of years ago, she was diagnosed as diabetic, and was taking pills.  I don't think she's taking them anymore; either she stopped them herself, or she told the doctor she didn't need/want to take them anymore.  She said she's watching what she eats, but Dad said she's put on "a couple more rolls."  Sis admits that all she does when she gets home from work is sit down in her recliner and watch TV, and if she eats a heavy meal, it's going to just sit there and add to the weight, right?  My niece (her daughter) was diabetic, and passed away a year and a half ago from a stroke; she was only 34 years old; wouldn't that be enough of a wake-up call?

I'm not fishing for compliments, but damn, she could have at least said that I looked nice or something, instead of making snide remarks.  I think a lot of it is jealousy because I have a life and am trying to improve myself healthwise.

Anyway, this has made me even more determined to get this weight off and get healthy!  I do NOT want to become a diabetic, and do NOT want to take insulin of any kind!  And I KNOW, with Leslie's workouts, and the support I'm getting here, it's going to happen!

So, let's all put one foot in front of the other, keep looking ahead, and we'll ALL get there!

Thanks for letting me vent.

Hugs, Nanci

Let it slide off your back. Know in your heart that you are doing something to help yourself. There will always be those that are skinnier or heavier than us. Comparing yourself can drive you crazy so it is best just to compare yourself with your own goals (which at times can drive you crazy too).

Your sister is just doing what dominating sisters do...trying to make you feel bad about
yourself. Most dominating (insecure) people try to control those around them in some way. Your sister is controlling you by making you insecure (it shows as anger) but it is insecurity that hurts at the heart and your body language will give you away every time. You can never control other people (which is why dominating people are always miserable whether they admit it or not) you can only control the way you react to them.

Therefore, next time you all get together --don't ask and don't expect any congratulations from your sister...it isn't going to happen. Muster up the self-confidence you need to deal with her from inside. You may want to dress to enhance your weight loss, but I'd not speak to her about it. If she makes any snide remarks like having spagetti twice in 2 days is nothing to you. Just smile and say well that used to be me but the more I learn about myself, the more I realize that I am just not that person anymore....AND let it go. DO NOT mention WEIGHT....she obviously has problems of her own with weight and as someone told me recently...fat people DO NOT want to hear about your successes. Do not fool yourself into thinking you can talk to her about health, weight and longevity. Find other things to amuse yourself with like, what everyone wants for christmas or how pretty the weather is outside...you may even venture into how she is coping with the loss of her daughter...but steer clear of food/health/weight issues.

Trust me...she notices and it makes her feel awful enough. Just know that and try to be sensitive because she is in a place where she can't.

Now as for me...CONGRATULATIONS!!! Wow!! 2 miles keep it up and all of your other dreams for weight/health will follow. Walk away the bad karma and smile with each step because each step you take is one step further from a diabetic future. Hold your head high!