In Sweden they say that you can eat cheese so long it is true feta ( sheepmilk cheese) or hard goatcheese or long aged ( 6 months minimum ) cowmilk cheese.
I use in pancakes and some creamed soups coconuts milk.
In Sweden we have lots of lactose free milk products, I don't know how it is in America.
But you can use soymilk or rice dreams instead of cowmilk, some lactose intolerant can drink goatmilk.
So try
Hanna Trygg, the mad swede