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  12/18/2008 9:15 am

My fiance's sex drive is through the roof. He wants it all the time. I like it because I like to know that I am making him happy, but other than that I don't really have much of a desire. I enjoy sex when I get into it, but getting into it sometimes feels like a chore. Our relationship is really good otherwise, and usually I try to initiate. But, lately (probably the past month or so) he has been the sole initiator and a lot of it is I work all day and come home and am exhausted. The last thing I am thinking about is sex. Well..last night he confronted me about it and asked me if I didn't like having sex with him, and my answer was .."of course not" I love him. I think part of the problem is I have put on a few pounds and don't feel good about my body, and I am on the pill which has caused me to have a low libido. I don't know what to do...now if I initiate it he feels like I am just doing it because he has guilted me into it. I want him to feel wanted, but I just don't ever think about it and I don't really get the desire.

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  12/18/2008 9:33 am

Hi free_thinker85,

Welcome!  I wanted to pop in and welcome you, and to let you know that this board will be closing soon so you might want to repost your topic on the Mismatched Libidos board where members can respond with some been there--done that advice. :)

 

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