My new BF and I talked as friends for a month before we started officially dating, and we've been official for a month and a half now. He's 26, I'm 30. We waited until we had been together officially for 2 weeks before we slept together, so not very long in the grand scheme of things, really.
So in the last month, we've tried to have sex 4 times. The 1st and 2nd time, he wasn't completely hard, and he kept slipping out, so then he lost it completely and we couldn't finish. The third time, all was going well (still not completely hard, though), but he had been sick with a chest cold, and the exertion caused him to get into a coughing fit, which obviously killed the mood again. The 4th time, still not totally hard, but at least we were able to finish. Well, finish as much as he could, as he apparently does not ejaculate with his orgasms when he's with a woman. (He can just fine when he masturbates, just when he's with a woman, he has the sensation of orgasm, but nothing comes out. this part is normal for him, with every girl, apparently.)
So, I've just been getting an *off* feeling with us about sex, so I thought last night that I would try something different, just try to have lots of sensual foreplay, me touching him but not letting him touch me, etc., thinking it might help. He couldn't get hard AT ALL. Nothing. And after a while, he told me that I had to stop, because it made him feel really weird.
So we started talking, and apparently, *sometimes* he gets a guilty or *bad* feeling when he has sex with me, his quote was, "It feels wrong, like I'm doing it with my sister or cousin or something." He says that he has tremendous feelings for me, and that he's very attracted to me, and that it's not all the time, just 2 of the 4 times we've had sex, and then again last night. We talked for about 4 hours about it, and he says that he doesn't understand it, because out of the 3 relationships he's had in his life, he's never felt like this (the *sister* thing) with any of them but me. He says that he's felt like that before with other girls, short flings or one night stands, etc., but no one else that he's been in an actual relationship with, that he actually had real feelings for.
He hasn't been in a relationship since he and his ex broke up a year and a half ago, he's only had flings/one night stands. He says that he's not wanted to be in a relationship with anyone until me. I asked if he thought he might be gay, he said no, that he'd asked himself that before, and that men do not turn him on sexually at all.
So, it's just me, just sometimes, and he doesn't understand WHY. The rest of our relationship is great, he says. He's a great cuddler and loves to touch me and kiss me in that way, in a caring/non sexual way, and we laugh and talk and have fun together, and he says that he misses me when I'm not there with him. So why is everything great except for the sex?
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