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A ReBirth in 2008

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  1/22/2008 6:54 pm

Hi Everyone,

My name is SweetBeauty, and I have been an active member of ivlliages' message boards, specifically, the toxic relationships venting about family and friends boards for a while now.

I am at a very challenging time in my life, and consequently, their are moments/days that the challenges to stay afload is overwhelming, but nonetheless I am persisting, and I know that with the help of the Lord I will survive.

I am in my mid 20's, and have jfound myself to be in the situation of a rebirth. What I mean by a rebirth is a new creation of self, social circles, new career. This unknown terrotory can be very scary while at the same time enlightening, essential for growth, and exciting.

As a woman in my mid 20's, I have learned very hard life's lessons, lessons that sometimes require me to look inward for the correct answers, and to search externally for those who are equip to guide me in the right direction.While I understand that the need for this recreation is necessary for a better tomorrow, I am human, and there are times when it can become so unbearably lonely because your family and friends don't understand the need for your re-creation.

Okay, I am sure you all are wondering, "what is this chick talking about"?

Many of my situations have been posted over on the venting about family/friends boards, so if you are interested you can read there.

I am going through a rebirth socially and professionally. While professionally speaking, I am competent and confident, and I am sure of my abilities. But socially, I am scare. I am scare of what could be, and thus have been doing a lot, and perhaps too much self-examination.

Change is hard, but I am committed. Its hard when your old obstacles try and re-appear, but what I have learned is that its important to move beyound the barriers of life, and pray that god is on your side.

Even though I fialed to provide a lot of information in regards to a rebirth, I would like to know how did you all come to realize that a rebirth was in place?

What happended to force you to rexamine your life?

Good Night,

SweetBeauty          

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  1/25/2008 10:59 pm

I commend you for what you're doing.  I think I'm going through the same thing.  When I feel down nothing helps me like a good book or movie.  I buy movies once in awhile because I don't like to go to movies.

You're never too old to do this as I am a middle'aged woman and still trying.  I'm trying to feel my mind with good thoughts but other people put the negative ones back in.  However you can't let them get you down.

What I  would like to know is what do you mean by recreation?  I didn't quite understand that.  Reinventing to me doing things to make youself feel good.  I have sort of a ritual of things, give myself a facial. check my drawers and closet to see if my clothes are in the right place and they're ready when I have to go somewhere, clean my room and check my beauty supplies every weekend before I go to the grocery store where a beauty supply store is located. 

I think the thing that would really make me feel better would be to get a manicure and a hair cut every month.  However I haven't found a regular beautician and I have to take the bus unless my husband brings me.  I never drove and I don't think I ever will.

Write me back and let me know how you feel about these things I have posted to you.  

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