Kick Start Change Challenge

 I don't know if this is the right topic, but here goes.. 

I am a stay at home mom for my 9 week old son. I have been out of work for a little over a year. I am at my wits end with house cleaning. But my main issue is trying to get my husband to help out a little. He won't bathe our dogs, take out the trash or even pick up after himself. ( I have to do it otherwise it doesn't get done..) I think he is taking advantage of the fact that I stay at home. His excuse is that he is tired..Well i'm going back to work in a couple weeks and I'm going to be exhausted too. (midnight feedings, laundry, dishes, dinner, bills, errands.) I know that I am mom and I will be doing a lot, I just don't think it's a lot to ask of him to take out the trash and pick up after himself..What do you guys think?

Been there..not with a infant but none the less...Can u afford a cleaning service? It is priceless....ur husband will come to enjoy it also..or understand it is a necessary (utility bill)....The resentment of caring for all the  household cleaning is overwhelming, the (husbands) don't seem to understand it. Also don't hold yourself up to such a high standard, there aren't any "neatness police" that will come and inspect your home:)

This one is about communication. Not mean, aggressive, emotional conversation.
More about just saying what is and coming up with solutions.
Men want to take care of a woman and the most important thing is to see you happy.
So approach it that way-
Appreciate all he does do for you and for the family.....start with that. And then ask for his help. Men want to help! so use that word.
Ask him what he suggests, dont give him answers- let him fix the situation. Let him think about it and come up with solutions.

See him already the way you want him to be and behave-- change the way you see him...and he will change.

Good Luck with it all

Ariane