This-n-That

Hello! It's been a while.

OK, here's the scoop:

My ex and I (separated for 5 years from a 7 year relationship) recently decided to become roommates so that we could both save money and he would not have to move out of his place because he could no longer afford it.

I have two bedrooms and a bathroom and so does he. It has barely been two weeks and we had a large argument, which in context, is fairly small because it shows we failed to make clear the rules of engagement at the outset. BUT ... I'm now realizing all the things that made me leave him in the first place. I don't want to be his roommate anymore.

So I have come up with an idea: I will move out but will agree to pay him 85% of what I agreed to pay before, for the next 7 months until he can make other arrangements. His complaint about me moving out is that we'd agreed that we would try this for a year.

Am I making a bad choice by changing the course of action? Is my counter-offer fair?

Help!

What a pleasure to meet you! I really can't say it much better than Dick already has. If you only had a verbal agreement to try the roommate venture, then I can't see why you would be obligated to stay or to pay him anything in the ensuing months. If you know it's not working, then he surely knows it, as well. There's no sense, imo, in causing anymore discontent. Again, only you can make that decision. I wish you lots of good luck and let us know how everything turns out.

Hugs!