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How To Lose A Guy!

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  confused_girl2007
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  3/13/2007 5:01 pm

k so i've known this guy for almost 2 years now, he's my ex boyfriends good friend. Recently we started chillin and stuff and he asked me out... i said sure why not , but he's not what i thought he was and he's too nice to break up with him. He's one of those guys that would do anything for a girl but he's sort of creeping me out being to nice. He's always saying things like what would you do if i kissed you or thanks for spending the day with me little things that a boyfriend shouldn't be saying. Im getting to the point now where i dont even wanna be around him because it's freakin me out.. he always wants me with him and is calling me 24/7 even after he drops me off at night..we've only been going out for 2 weeks not even and he wants me to start moving in with him.. kinda quick i know ..i said no.. but how the heck to i say i dont wanna be with him when he's madly in love with me alredy!?!? im soooo confused...

some please help
 
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How To Lose A Guy!

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  3/13/2007 10:51 pm

Wow. Usually it's the men who are afraid of commitment! If it's hard to tell him to his face how you feel, maybe you could write him a letter instead. My boyfriend and I wrote to eachother a lot, and I found that I could write more than I could confront him about. You should at least tell him that you aren't ready to move in with him. I don't see anything wrong with him telling you he had fun. We tell each other that all the time. Do you do things without him? Try spending more time with your friends, instead of going with him. How often do you go out? If you have caller id, maybe you could stop answering the phone after he just drops you off, or when you just don't feel like talking to him. Maybe he'll get the point eventually. Try to be honest and up front about it. I know it's hard. I'm not very good at confrontations, either. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

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  3/16/2007 10:41 am

First of all... Mad props to you, girl, for being so unbelievably desirable! However, love is a tricky and fickle little joker. I know you are probably tired of hearing it, but... sister you gotta get out. If the love bug hasnt bitten you... let the boy go. Chances are, he behaves this way because he THINKS it is what you want... or what any girl wants. If he wants to float away with a beautiful princess on clouds of romantic propaganda fluff... then he deserves that opportunity (obviously not with you), so give the man a break... and a chance to find a girl that actually loves that vomit inducing mush. You both have only ONE life... dont waste each other's precious time. For you, the real world woman... you gotta find someone to sweep you up off your feet. YOU DESERVE IT!
Just be nice. Explain that he is overwhelming you... and youre not quite as ready as you thought. Honesty gets you out clean in both conscience, and in the eyes of your smitten beau. Try it. He'll be hurt, but you'll be respected in the end. Good luck in your pursuit of freedom, love, and happiness!
 
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  3/27/2007 3:23 am

i hope this one help but the longer you leave it then the worse its goin to be. I had an ex who ased me to marry him after 7 weeks and wanted me to start ahving kids wiht him. so i just let it to him and he took it okay. I think that being in a relationship like that isnt really a relationshiop at all when one of you isnt happy.
 
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