Should I Say "I Love You" First???

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co_lisa

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Should I Say "I Love You" First???

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Oct-5 4:45 pm

Ok ladies (and guys)...I know this is the age old question: should the guy be the one to say "I love you" first? Here's my scoop: After a disastrous, abusive, and selfish (on the guys part) engagement relationship that ended almost two years ago, I dated off and on 12 months later only to find that I was meeting less than special/worthy men. Out of the blue, I met the most wonderful, affectionate and caring man. To this day, 5 months later, I have yet to see any red flags (I know, lucky me). That's just it; I feel SOOOO lucky to have found this man and I know he feels that same about me. Thing is, neither of us have said those three little words yet. Note: he was in a relationship that also ended badly so the two of us are on the same page when it comes to being hurt and being afraid of getting hurt again. The saying goes "there's no right time to say I love you; say it when you feel it". Believe me, I feel it however am afraid to say it first for fear of scaring him away or making him feel that he has to commit to saying it back. I want to tell him becuase I feel it, not because I expect him to say it back. So, my question is, is it ok for me to say it first or does the guy like to be the one in charge? I've never been the one to say it first and definitely don't want to lose this wonderful guy! Help!!! I don't know how much longer I can keep my feelings to myself...

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Oct-22 10:50 am

If you are only five months in to the relationship I would wait a little longer. It takes time for the man to recognize his feelings. To men, saying I love you means commitment and most men get pretty nervous about that.

The real question is, does he behave as though he loves you? Love is more of a behavior, a decision to treat someone with love, value, and respect.

If you just can't wait try asking him how he feels about you and where he sees the relationship going.

Good Luck
Marie
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