Hi all, I'm Susan and expecting our 5 & 6 children, yes twins! When we first found out we were expecting twins DH said "I'll name the boys you get the girls". This was huge. We have always fought on the names of our children, all four of them. I am the one who usually gives in. Except w/ our only DD who DH consented to let me have my pick after I delivered her. It only took us a day to come up with our names. DH picked his two boy names and told me which one he would choose if there was just one boy. I came up with my twin girl names and then another name if it were just one girl (to go better w/ DH's boy pick). We have been on a family name thing for the last two children and planned to continue with it. DH's picks are William Alexander and Michael Granthum, all family names(his family) except for Alexander which is the name DH's mother had wanted to name him but my FIL wouldn't have it. My picks- two girls, Costilla Joe and Estella Dean all family names and only Estella comes from my side. I choose Lilly Costilla for just one girl still both family names. DH's going with William which I would shorten to Liam and I thought would go well with Lilly. I don't care for Alexander but DH is but at the MN position I am not fighting. I really am against Michael as a FN, it's DH's brothers name but I love Granthum and DH won't budge he says I can call him Granthum and that we can all call him that but the birth certificate will have Michael as the FN. Well, 3 weeks ago as we were in the car DH tells me that my girl names are ugly ( even though he had picked Costilla to use as a FN if our last child had been a girl). I was shocked but asked him what he suggested and he said Amanda and Beth! I can never use Amanda- my mother had lost my baby sister and we had already chosen her name Amanda. He dropped that but still said he liked Beth. My MIL is Elizabeth and I told him that I would never name my DD after his mother. He said that Beth is not after his mother. That Beth doesn't come from Elizabeth. We debated this for a while but I told him I didn't care where he got it from that my DD would not be Beth or Elizabeth. A week later I thought I would try again for some say in the boys names. Suggesting that we use a name from my family as a MN for one of the boys. He told me that they were his boys and would be carrying on his name and my family didn't matter w/ boys. And wouldn't hear any suggestions. We have really been trying for our favorites as our big u/s is coming next week. Here's the kicker, today I went in for an unexpected appointment. I hadn't known I had an appoit. until they called and reminded me yesterday afternoon. So I'm 18 weeks and get u/s at every appot. due to twins and have been asking since week 12 for a guess. Today I got one. The dr. told us he was pretty sure we are having 2 girls. I really thought there was one of each and even though he'll never admit to it DH was thinking 2 boys. We've agreed to not tell anybody until we can get it confirmed next week but I am certain baby A is a girl and at 18 weeks I think the chances of the dr. being right are good. Now, I am having second thoughts and have no clue what names I want but know if I ask DH about it he'll take over. Argh, I don't know what to do other than post every name combo that pops in my head and have you all be my sounding board. I'll be posting alot, I'm sure.
You have LOTS of time to decide on names for your little girls. So, my advice, is to take your time, experiment with lots of names and, without a doubt, you will find two combinations that you love.
You and DH made an agreement and, honestly, I think you should stick to it. You certainly have the right to love your little girls' names.
He agreed to let you pick the girl names, and now it sounds like he's trying to reneg. Don't let him bully you. Take your time and find the names you love. GL!
