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...seems most concerned (for lack of me thinking of a better word this morning) with your child's birthmark? [I was going to post a poll to make it anonymous, but for some reason, that tab isn't working for me today]

Looking back, it seemed as though I was the one who had the burden of "dealing" with it, but was least concerned (cosmetically, anyway). Dh wasn't particularly concerned, but it did hit him harder when we were out and people commented (or whatever). It didn't seem to phase my parents at all and my inlaws were concerned probably a bit more than they showed. My brother lives out of state and was oblivious.

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I was the one that dealt with most of Jaylee's h, took her to apts., stayed overnight for all hospital stays/surgeries/visits as my DH was traveling a bit to and from Tampa. I do give him credit for being the much stronger emotionally of the two of us dealing w/ the H, I think my emotions upset him way more than the h as I was not only dealing with J's h but postpartum (didn't believe it at the time, hindsight 20 20...right). Harder on me all around.

My mom was pretty good, only one time I think she was having a hard time, J's h "popped" and bleed and bleed, I think that freaked her out the most.

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I was the one who looked up PWS, found Dr Geronemus and did all the research. My hubby has always been wonderful about going to appts etc but I think I was the more emotional. My mother in law asked me when she was born" That mark on her face is going to go away, right?" I have always included my hubby in decisions about laser etc. But I think ultimately, the ball is in my court, so to speak.

A you know, Alexa has the high risk for glaucoma issue. For me, and I have never said this to anyone, every time I looked at her, I remembered the medical risks and I would get soooooo sad. The cosmetic side I could have cared less about .It was the possible life long medical issues that hurt me. The unknown. I also switched pediatricians after 6 years because my peds partner walked in the room, looked at her and said :Whats wrong with her face?"  HHHEEELLLLOOO..... My husband was livid. He told him off.This was not the first time he said that either. She was at an age to understand now. I switched Pediatricians the same day. I have enough with ignorant people saying things to her, but not her own peds office. DH has been very supportive but does not wear his emotions on his sleeve, as I do. :)

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I was the one who did everything. Did research, took her to her appts. Took her in when she had breathing issues etc. I was the one who was there for all her surgeries. He never took a day off even when she had major surgery. He was always too busy. Yeah right, too busy sleeping with one of his whores. Sorry:( I am still angry. He didn't even take care of the other kids, his mother did.

My parents were more accepting than his parents and my Dad did some internet searching at first.

Barbara - Mom to Veronica aka Roni- Large facial Hemangioma and PHACE

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