When Breadwinner is Mom

Well, that is one of my two main beefs. When I was home with the kids (when they were smaller) I was caretaker rain or shine. When I was sick, I STILL had to take care of the kids. (The only time this was not true, was when I was entirely immobile due to a back injury.) Now he stays home, he gets one kid gone every morning and two afternoons/week the other kid gone all of 2 days/week which means he's entirely free 1 1/2days and has only one kid four half-days a week, not counting the older child's playdates And when HE gets sick, we make alternate childcare arrangements.

My other problem is the whole concept of him "helping" me. How is it that home management is still my job, and he is seen as "HELPING" me with it?

Hi Dina, I am new to the board, but I can relate to some of the things you are going through. When I was home, DH expected the house to be clean, dinner cooked, the works. He does not do the same.  Yes, he does clean, or should I say keeps things picked up, but he does not cook, and I still have to mop floors, dust, things he does not like to do. I also feel guilty if I am sitting around and he's cleaning. I guess I haven't helped out much, just agreed with alot of what you said.
It actually helped me to know I wasn't the only one feeling this way ;o)

((Hugs to you))