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Wondering if I should quit. M
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59557.2 in response to 59557.1
Well, only you can decide, but IMHO, quitting would be for wrong reasons (M)
and it seems like others are not clear on developmental changes and individual traits for babies - in other words, it's not *you* doing this, but it's simply that developmentally the baby is not ready to move away - this is common (all babies go through periods of what is called seperation anxiety) and it will pass.
The worst thing one can do during this time, is take away the one thing baby is clinging to. Imagine it like this... you have one thing in the whole world that you count on being the same (stable, comforting, secure), and you go there when the world around you is moving so fast it's overwhelming. Now take away that thing.. and what are you left with? Seems to me it'd be frightening and overwhelming.. and cruel.
We don't make independent kids by "forcing" them to self comfort (well, we do but it's not the sort of independence that we would like to see for a lifetime), but rather we make secure and well-adjusted kids by meeting the individual needs of our children. Some need more attention (for lack of a better word) than others.
You might want to give baby a little more time, and love and snuggle him all you can now, because before too long, he'll be all grown up, and all this will be a distant memory.
