Hi Melissa. Wow, you found a post from 2003! I’m so sorry you had such a difficult time with your delivery. My goodness, how scary! I’m so glad you are doing well now.
No you are not doomed with regard to milk supply! It’s usually possible to increase milk supply. It does get harder the older the baby is but usually not impossible.
Many things have potentially impacted your supply. Certainly the tough birth probably delayed your ability to pump. There seems to be a vulnerable period in the first few weeks where the milk supply is set. The best way to set the supply high is via frequent, effective breastfeeding or if you can’t bf frequent effective pumping. Your breasts are growing more milk making cells in the early weeks and if you have enough stimulation your supply will be set nice and high. That is not to say however, that if you miss out on bf or pumping early you can’t increase supply. It’s just harder.
I work in a large hospital with a NICU. When I’m working with NICU moms I recommend they use a rental pump with double kit and pump every 2 hours during the day and evening and once overnight when they wake up ‘naturally’ (usually when they feed the baby or wake to use the bathroom). This gets you about 9-10 pumping sessions per 24 hours. So timing of the pumping sessions might be something like this.7am, 9am, 11am, 1pm, 3pm, 5pm, 7pm, 9pm, 11pm and then set up the pump at bedside and pump when you wake overnight one time.
Each time you pump use your double kit. Pump AT LEAST 10 minutes even if no milk is flowing for part of that time. IF you are still flowing at 10 minutes continue to pump until it looks like there is little or no flow and then add another 2-5 minutes after that. This usually means pumping sessions last from about 15-20 minutes with your double kit. In general more frequent pumping sessions are more productive than longer sessions. So for example; you’d get more benefit from two 15 minutes sessions over one 30 minute session.
The main way to increase milk supply is to take more from the breast. In general the more you pump the more milk you will make. If you have not been pumping this much and you begin to pump more, it can take a few days to a week until you notice an increase in the amount you pump so hang in there a bit, your body will respond.
How often are you pumping? Are you using the double kit? How long do you pump each time? Was your baby premature, if so how early? How many weeks old is your baby?
Most moms don’t respond to pumps as well as a baby who is bf effectively so pump volumes are harder to increase than bf volumes. Often mothers with babies in the NICU find that they pump larger volumes right after holding the baby or kangarooing (holding the baby skin to skin). Ask your NICU nurses if that’s possible for you to do when you visit your baby. Some hospitals allow or promote pumping at the baby’s bedside and find that works better to increase supply. Some moms find that as they are able to put the baby to breast their supply gets a boost.
Does your hospital have a lactation consultant? If so, contact her for help as well, especially as you begin to breastfeed the baby. As soon as the baby is able to take food by mouth you should be able to breastfeed directly. As you begin breastfeeding you may find that the baby doesn’t breastfeed well enough to depend just on breastfeeding. Most NICU babies need to have breast milk supplements as they learn to breastfeed effectively. The breast milk and any formula supplements will need to be weaned off gradually as the baby grows in her ability to breastfeed effectively. But the sooner you and she begin to practice breastfeeding the sooner she’ll learn how to do it effectively and putting the baby to breast may also help with supply. When you begin to breastfeed her be sure you continue to pump even after you breastfeed the baby and/or every 2 hours. Sometimes mothers are told they don’t need to pump if they breastfed the baby at a feeding. I feel that it’s very important to continue to pump, even after feedings to give the breasts adequate stimulation to produce milk. Often breastfeeding sessions in the nicu are not the most effective b/c the babies aren’t feeling well or may be to immature to do a good job of it.
Just do your best and try not to worry. You may find that as the baby gets healthier and you are able to breastfeed that your supply adjusts just fine. Are you doing ok at this point? Are there any residual health issues for you? Are you on any medications, including any birth control medications or over the counter medications? Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Hang in there, you are doing a fantastic job considering all you have been through. Get back to me if you can with answers to the questions in red.