Baby's First Year

I am so confused...

Ever since my baby was a few months old, he will suddenly burst into tears when my husband is holding him for seemingly no reason. It usually occurs when my baby is being a little cranky and my husband repositions him - suddenly he gets red in the face and just bursts into tears... Sometimes it occurs when my baby is cranky and just wants him mommy and doesn't want daddy - my husband will pass the baby to me and suddenly the baby bursts into tears again.

I suspect that when the baby is cranky or prefers me to my husband, my husband is poking him to make him cry out of frustration. Am I crazy?? I have brought this up with my husband a couple of times and he gets really mad at me for accusing him of doing it. Normally I'd chalk it up to me being a freak over the baby as usual, but there is something intuitive to me that makes me feel I am right... Also, I watch my husband handle the baby during these situations, and to me, it looks like he is pressing him thumbs into the baby's chest right before the baby cries.

I am upset - if my husband is doing this, he needs to stop. If he is not, I need to understand why I'm feeling this way and accusing him of something he would never do. My husband has never hit me, pushed me, or been physically aggressive with me. In fact, I've never seen him be physical with anyone. He can have a short temper when he's frustrated by other people.

Does anyone have any advice?

Malena

Well if your husband isn't doing it.

It would sound to me like a worried mother about her baby. Mothers are very cautions when it comes to there babies. They wouldn't want anything to hurt them in ANY way.

I don't know your husband to say that he might be doing it.

If you have ever caught him lying about something big then maybe he just might be doing that, but I wouldn't jump the gun just yet. I don't think any father would want to do that to their child.

Sorry you are going through this. I hope it gets better!

It sounds like when baby starts crying your husband has just, or is in the process of moving him? Could it be that its unintentional? Maybe he is pressing too hard with his thumbs, but he isnt realizing he is even doing it, to him it could just be having a good grip on the baby while he passes him over.

Also if you DH is getting frustrated because the baby is cranky, etc, baby can feel that. They are really intune with the feelings/emotions of their parents and caregivers and if the person holding them is cranky or upset or frustrated, they wont fell calm and safe.

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