First-Time Pregnancy Club

Hi everyone,
Firstly - congratulations to everyone on their pregnancies! :)

This is my first message here, and I'm hoping for some advice and reassurance and perhaps a pregnancy buddy :).
I feel totally alone and really scared, I don't know what to expect or what's normal and what isn't.
I am 34, been married for 5 years and am approximately 8 weeks pregnant.
I suffer lots of health issues (chronic back pain, migraines, depression, gastric troubles and I also have polycystic ovaries). So actually, I never expected to fall pregnant at all! The doctors said it was highly unlikely without fertility treatment.
Basically I'm feeling really low and anxious, sick and tired.
My back is bothering me, I've had lots of headaches, am not sleeping well and I have this nausea, which comes and goes, (but mostly stays). I'm not actually sick, I just feel it - lots.
On top of feeling physically lousy, I am SO scared about the whole pregnancy thing. I think I'm possibly still in shock? ( I found out for sure 2 weeks ago) And It just all seems SO huge and frightening. I can't get my head around it really.
Is this normal? physically and emotionally? to be feeling like this. My first midwife appointment is November the 11th (in 4 days time).
I just feel so alone, scared and generally low. My husband is totally great, but he doesn't really understand, my mother passed away when I was a teenager, and my friends all live far away.
Any advice will be truly gratefully received. :)

Take care everyone and God Bless.
A. x

Well I would first like to congratulate you on your pregnancy (whether you were expecting it or not) :)

Secondly what you are feeling is not anything unique or wrong.  That would be your hormones at work.  The surge in hormones will definately make you more emotional and amplify your feelings by...like 100!  When I was first pregnant my back was hurting me more then usual also and I heard that it was because the bones were softening to allow for more room...I will say that for me the back pain went away so hopefully it will do the same for your.  If not maybe your midwife will have some tips for you.  I think that everyone feels scared at some point or another whether it is in the beginning or the end...at some point the whole idea sinks in and brings up all of those natural fears so don't worry about it!

I think that the best thing for you to do is to share everything with your husband (even if he might not understand) at least you can talk to him about it and he might surprise you!  If that doesn't work then you are always free to come chat with us here!!! We love being able to help with problems and share this fantastic experience that we are all going through. 

Welcome again and we look forward to chatting with you!

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You sound normal to me! A suprise pregnancy is a HUGE suprise. Your whole life is changing.

It sounds like your DH is great, and that you're both happy, it's just a lot to adjust to. Add to that carzy hormones, and moring sickness. It's a lot to get your head around.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! We'll all be your pregnancy buddies here!

#1! EDD 5/27/10

Hi Sammy, and thanks so much for your support and reassurance :) It's greatly appreciated.
I hope to chat more with you and others online whilst we go through this amazing (and daunting) journey.

Thanks again and best wishes,
Angie. x

Thanks so much Sammy, I really appreciate any support and reassurance :)
I hope to get to know and chat with you and others on this board (and make some pregnancy buddies along the way) during this amazing (and daunting!) journey :)

Best wishes,
Angie. x