I am trying to figure out how to deal with this. First my mother in law is not talking to us because she says I am to controlling. That whole thing had to deal with the fact that I aked her not to hold Noelle well she was sleeping. No one can see why this is important so I started thinking that it must be one of Noelle's things. She sleeps all day when she is being held and then at night she wouldn't sleep at all. She would then scream so much thast she would make herself spit up a lot and it was imposable to get her to nurse because she wouldn't calm down to even realize that I was trying to nurse her. I was also getting no sleep. I found that not holding her when she sleep solved this problem. If she was staying for 2 days it wouldn't be too bad but Noelle can't not sleep well for 4 days. She would end up getting sick and I was already sick from lack of sleep by the time they where there for two days. My mother-in-law also almost dropped Noelle to prove a point. Anyways I am going off the topic. Sorry. That was the first part of my isolation.
The second part of my isolation is that I can't seem to take Noelle out of the house or have anyone over. Noelle is over stimulated very easily. My mom says I just have to let her scream. I have joined a mommies group but I can't go to many of the activities because if there is more then 4 people in a room Noelle will just scream the whole time. She also can't seem to handle being around kids. Every time I go to my mom's house there is atleast 7 kids and 6 adults all the time. Also My mom lives about 3 hours away so it is not like we can just go for an hour or something. We still go but with Noelle screaming and me and Noelle locked in a room by ourself it is not enjoyable. Even gooing to the store is like that. I am trying to expose her to small groups but I am thinking I need a new strategy. I can't keep her locked in the house. I also can't have people over for the same reason. I had my sister and one other fried over. They each brought some of their kids. The kids where 13, 11, 7, 1, and 1. It was way to much for Noelle. She sreamed the whole time. I had to take Noelle in the other room. My sister even tryed rocking Noelle for me for about an hour of there visit. I was so happy when they left because Noelle was hysterical the whole time. I turned down going to a kid museum with my sister yersterday because of this.
