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11 days past due - freaking out. NST?

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I'll be 11 days past my EDD tomorrow. On Friday, I was 3 cm. dilated and 50% effaced. Midwife says baby's head is "really low", right behind my cervix. She stripped my membranes and I've been having contractions off and on since, but nothing promising.

I'm panicking. My biggest fear about this pregnancy was that I wouldn't go into labor, that my body just didn't know what to do once it finished growing a baby (DD was induced 12 days past my EDD). If I'm still pregnant at my midwife appointment on Tuesday we're going to talk about going to the hospital for a NST. The baby is still moving a lot, her heartrate is great at every check, and it feels like there's still plenty of fluid, but I'm getting worried the placenta is getting "old". The only way to check that is with an u/s, isn't it?? I'm worried that I'll head to the hospital for the NST, they'll see I'm nearly 2 weeks "overdue" AND planning an HBAC which they adamently disagree with and will do everything in their power to freak me out even more so I'll agree to a hospital induction. I can't give birth in the hospital, not willingly. I'll end up cut open again. It's the biggest reason we decided to have a homebirth - because I didn't feel I was getting a fair shot in the hospital.

I know, rationally, that anything up to 42 weeks is perfectly normal, but I'm obviously having a hard time thinking very rationally! Every second that ticks by I feel like I'm one step closer to losing my homebirth AND my VBAC. I need a little reasurrance that no one has ever been pregnant forever and I will likely NOT be the first... and a little advice - would you get the NST??

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Hey! I'm sorry everything feels on the verge of being lost! I'd be freaking out too!!! I know I would! But try try try to relax. I know it's so much easier said than done but maybe all your body needs is lower stress levels to kick into labor.
Just a thought here... maybe you could go in for the NST to make sure baby is okay (or talk about u/s for the placenta concern INSTEAD since you feel the heart rate and movement is already okay) but decide before you go in that you will make NO decisions while you're there. Even if they scare you into an induction schedule it for at least 2 hours later so you have time to go home, call your midwife, talk to dh... whatever. Then you know you wont be rushed into a decision in that very second. You can just tell them "Okay.. but I'll be back later this afternoon. I AM NOT staying now." and then you can clear your head enough to decide if the information given is really worthy of coming back for the induction they will most definitely try to talk you into, or if you should just call and say "Nevermind... I won't be showing up for my appointment." You're in charge... not them. And you have every right if they "scare you into it" to schedule what they want and then think about it for a couple hours or even days and then decide FOR YOU what to do. If they're reasons are real and true to you.. go ahead... if you feel you're being swindled.. don't show up. You know?
I would just not make any "let's just admit you RIGHT NOW" decisions. That may help you get a true reading on what you need. (Cause I'm betting you'll go home and stay home :-)
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Don't worry! You're not a carton of milk that will be expired past the posted date ;) I can only imagine you must be uncomfortable just having to wait it out, though!

I have a site for you to read over about 10-month mamas. It is filled with inspirational stories from women who have gestated past the traditional 42 weeks & how well it can turn out if that is, indeed, how your body & baby needs to do things.

 

http://birthlove.cyclzone.com/pages/ten_month_mama.html

 

Enjoy!!! I can't wait to hear about your HBAC when it happens! :)

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Dianna, thank you for providing that reassuring site. :o)

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{{hugs}}

Are things any different today? I'm not sure the NST is a bad idea, but I agree that you will be getting some pressure from the docs. I would take in what your midwife has to say about it too. I agree with a PP that it would be good to think about any action and have the chance to cancel if you want, rather than agreeing to be rushed into anything.

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