Loss of an Infant

As if the stress of losing your own child is not enough, add to that the stress of having a new baby and worrying every minute of the day that something will happen to her too.  Alot of you understand that part of how I am feeling.  That is nothing new.  Now add to it the latest drama in my SIL saga. 

As some of you know, my SIL is literally crazy.  I firmly believe she is bi-polar so I tend to just let things go and if she is mad at me so be it.  I really could care less and actually find alot of it funny because she gets mad at DH and I for the stupidest things.  Well, here is the latest one.

We had a party for Chloe last weekend.  About a week or two before, I had sent out emails to both my brother and her to their regular email accounts.  Well, I also sent an email to her sister's boyfriend so that he would have all the details and share with her sister.  I decided to send her sister an email through our school account just so I WOULDN't be in the doghouse and could say that I personally invited everyone.  Well, I found out today that SIL is mad b/c I didn't send an email to her or my brother through the school email too (b/c she figures that they don't read their regular email often and would have seen the school email sooner).  Isn't that the most ridiculous thing you have ever heard?  Yeah, that's how crazy she is.

Anyway, the only part of this that really bothers me is my brother.  He called me when Chloe was born when I was in the hospital and said they were going to come and see us.  Well her and my nephew got really sick and didn't want to come and infect us and the baby (totally understandable).  But I haven't heard one word from them since that phone call in the hospital.  My own brother has not even come over to see his niece.  Like I said, I understand if they were sick (which was about a week after she was born).  Well, she is 3 weeks old now and we haven't heard one word from him.  The problem with my brother is that he doesn't have a set when it comes to my SIL and she runs the show.  I don't think she is keeping him from Chloe, but I think he just doesn't want to get her mad or something.  So basically i am doing what I normally do and play like i have no idea she is mad at us (b/c unless my mom didn't say anything, I still wouldn't know).  Chloe's christening is in about 3 weeks and I am sending out the invites tomorrow.  I am hoping that my brother will at least show up (I could care less if she does or not).  It really hurts my feelings that he hasn't come to see her yet.  Any suggestions on how to handle the situation with my brother?  As far as she is concerned, I don't care if she is mad or not, I just want my brother to know his niece.  Help?