Infertility Support

Okay so here is my long story that I am going to try to shorten. So I am on my second marriage. My first marriage we tried getting pregnant for 2 1/2 years after have a m/c. We did three rounds of clomid with no pregnancy and then we just couldn't afford much after that. My doctor said I had pcos and insurance didn't cover much at all. My husband ended up leaving me so now I am married again. He has had a vasectomy. He has 2 kids from his previous marriage. He didn't get a vasectomy because he didn't want kids but because his ex said if she got pregnant she could die (4 years later she had another baby with no problem) so of course we have talked about reversal but what we can figure is that a sperm retrieval with IVF has the highest success rate. But trying to go through all of this again kind of scares me and part of me just wants to adopt and not worry about infertility treatments. It is going to be expensive and I know how bad the clomid gave me mood swings I can't imagine anything else. I get worried about the kids we have now too. We have custody of them and i call them my son and daughter but they have their mom too but I still worry about doing this with them also. So part of me just says just adopt and don't worry about it. I really don't know what to do so I always would love to have everyon'e thoughts on this. Thanks sorry it was so long!

Hi there,

I can understand the hesitation to jumping back into treatments again, it can be very stressful, overwhelming and not to mention expensive! But from my investigation into adoption, it is just as stressful and expensive too. That's what makes making "the next move" so difficult!

I hope you and DH can decide what will work for your family best. And as far as the clomid, there are many other treatment options out there so you can avoid that evil drug LOL!

Good Luck with your decision!

Welcome!

Adpotion or IVF are both big steps and I'm sure you will choose whatever is best for your family.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide.

Nat

<<HUGS!>>  What a tough decision! DH and I are just starting the adoption process.   It is so hard to move on from my dream of having my husband's baby, but  I know I will love our baby regardless of genetics, and we don't want to continue spinning our wheels.  We've been trying for over two years and at 38, I feel like it is time for us to move on.

 Have you been to an RE lately to see what the odds are for you to be able to concieve?   That would probably be a good place to start.  DH and I had taken some time off after I had surgery to remove some fibroids that my RE said were preventing me from conceiving.  4 months later I went to another RE (I moved) who said I STILL have fibroids (but a different type), one of which is affecting my chances.  He suggested that I have another surgery.  After weighing the options (cost/emotional toll/recovery/actual chances get pregnant after surgery due to scarring) we decided to adopt.  We still want to get another opinion, but I think I've gone through (ok I'm still going through) the grieving, and I am ready to move on and start my family.

I wish you luck with your journey and hope that you and your husband are able decide which road to follow.