Kindergarten

It has taken me a while to post about this here. But I can't take it anymore and nedd help from other moms. It is VERY overwhelming.

For those who don't know me. I am Cathy. I have a 7 yr old in Second grade right now who had an excellent kindy year.

Now my 5 yr old is in Kindy. He has a good very caring teacher. HOWEVER he is struggling BIG TIME with behavior issues. He has written on her desk and on the carpet, He disrupts the classroom. He has hit at least 3 kids (don't know how severe) among other things.

His teacher has beeing sending happy or sad faces depending on the day he had. I thought he was improving. I celebrated at home the tdays he had happy faces. If he had at least 4 happy faces that week and he didn't hit anyone he would get a price, which he earned ONCE.

But this week has been HORRIBLE from writing on the carpet to drawing on her desk and hitting TWICE this week. We have taken things away. On Tuesday he didn;t get to go to the funsraiser activity they had an McD. He was devastated and cried a lot but we stayed firmed and didn't let him go. I thought for SURE he would do better the next day.....WRONG... he hit someone..... He was grounded and didn;t get to watch TV......he hit someone else yesterday and wrote on her carpet. Last night me and my DH got together with him and took away his adored scooter and have threatened him to take other things away.

All this said......I think I can take the WORLD away from him and I don't think is going to improve. We have done the positive reinforcement.....the take away priviledge reinforcement....the let's have a serious talk with him approach and he just doesn't  ...get it. Is like he can't control himself or something. We ALL knew he would be hyper and that it would take a good teacher to handle him but this is beyond just active.

Anyways.... we are having a conference with her on Wednesday. We want to develope some kind of rewards plan for him TOGETHER...the teacher and us. She asked us to think of 3 rewards and 3 things that he would loose.

I think this is a going in the right direction.....however.....I want to be well prepared so that I can get the BEST out of this conference with her to help my Julian. He is a SWEET boy and OMG might I say super smart...actually way too smart for his own good....I swear he is going to be a politician or something the way he reasons things.

Any advice?

Thank you

Cathy

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Do you think your DS could be bored in class and that's why he's acting out? If he is above grade level for Kindy perhaps discuss with the teacher giving him more advanced material to work on.

I hope the 3 of you can come up with a good plan that works for DS.

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My first thought is something else is going on to cause the disruptive behavior. We had issues in kindy, not the same for us it was either crying or fidigy behavior and it came from fustration. Writting isn't easy for him (they think there is a learning disability) so it his behavior was his only way to express himself. If you feel he is advance maybe he just isn't being challenge and he needs more.

I don't really have any advice for you, but I wanted to offer a ((hug)). I have similar issues with my DS (also in Kindy), and I know how frustrating and disheartening it can be. My DS is VERY smart, but frustrates easily and has trouble with impulse control.

We have a great teacher who is wonderful about communicating to us what is going on. If he has a good day, she just gives me a "thumbs up" at pick up; if he didn't, then she comes and speaks to me and has my DS explain to me what happened, and what he can do to try to make better choices. (I think having HIM be accountable and explain what happened that day has a big impact on him, too..) She is also great about letting him know today is over, we will work on being better tomorrow...not having us dwell TOO much on it (though we do discuss it at home).

We implemented a behavior chart for the school week and it does appear to be having an effect on him, he definitely does NOT like having to put a sad face on his chart, that's for sure!

Does the school have a counselor? I spoke with ours and she said that it is such a big adjustment for the kids, and some just take longer than others to "get" it. (Luckily for me, she had been subbing as the assistant in my DS's classroom and saw him "in action", so to speak...LOL) Maybe you can ask the counselor to meet with him and see if she feels there's an underlying issue or if he's still just overwhelmed with the whole process of being in school?

Good luck, I hope you can find the right combination to get your little one on track. :)

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