Marriage

Just out of curiousity, when you brought up going back to school, what was his side? Was he worried about the money it would cost or the time it would take away from the family? I'm not siding with anyone, just trying to get the whole perspective. If you are really set on going back to school (which to me sounds like a great idea if you can swing it) then maybe you can take his concerns and try to find a happy medium. Possibly apply for grants or scholarships and/or agree to only go to school part-time? Maybe you could work part-time on campus between classes. Most colleges offer student employment.

Marriage is all about compromise from the both of you. If you can't agree on something, you need to become creative and try to find a happy medium. This is something both of you need to do, not just one of you. If one of you is always giving in to the other or if one is always tough as nails and is never willing to bend, then resentment will surely soon follow. I would suggest having a talk with your dh about how you feel when the mood is calm between you. Don't be acusatory, but explain how you feel hurt because it seems like he always gets his way and is never willing to negotiate or compromise. Come to the table with several recent examples (because you know he's gonna ask). At the same time, talk to him about how you feel like his mom seems to dictate the decisions made between the both of you. Obviously, we all were raised with different morals and beliefs, and this is all he knows when he tries to apply it to his own family. But at the same time, he needs to realize that there are more ways to do things than his way or his mothers way. I hope this helps and I'd be interested to know how it goes. Take care.

Mocha