Pregnant After Loss Playgroup

Good Monday Morning...

Ian had a fun Halloween by going to a friend's Halloween party.  DH took him by himself because I didn't feel like going.  (2 other pregnant women were going to be there)  So I went to a friend's house and helped pass out candy with her kids.  (and drank some good wine!) 

That night as DH and I were going to bed, he asked me how I was holding up.  Until that moment I thought I was doing pretty good.  Well, I totally broke down and cried.  He felt horrible because he had to leave in the morning for a business trip.  But what could he do?  All yesterday I felt on the verge of tears and was crying off and on.  Ugh!!!!  I think I just needed to get it out of my system.  However, I've decided to call my OB to see if they would recommend a therapist.  I think it would be really beneficial for me to talk one on one with someone.  Of course you all are a HUGE support for me, but it would be nice to talk with someone else and get their perspective on everything.  So I'll let you know how it goes.

Plus Ian was just a brat yesterday.  He probably sensed my mood and totally took advantage of it.  Then the icing on the cake, which of course wasn't his fault, was he had horrible diarrea.  When I saw it all over his shirt... front and back... I almost started laughing because it was just the perfect ending to a horrible day, you know?  Luckily it appears to be a one time thing and he seems fine this morning and slept good all night. 

Sorry for the novel this morning!!! 

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Good morning! Had a pretty good weekend. Our Juno and Paulie Bleeker costumes were a hit at the party we went to on Friday, but DH took full advantage of having a DD (which he rarely does), so I was exhausted and finally dragged him home at 1am.

Saturday we went to a friend's house for trick-or-treating. Had yummy food, and we enjoyed the other two couples. I felt really bad, because the hostess just found out that morning that she had a failed IVF cycle. It was the last of her frozen embryos (the previous had been used for her two sons), so now she has to go through the harvesting and whatnot again.

Anyway, Gabby was doing pretty well with trick-or-treating, despite continuously stepping on her dress. After about the third house, where the home owner would ask Gabby her name, how old she was, if she could say "trick or treat", what she was dressed as, etc., and she couldn't answer any of it, I started crying as we walked away. On a day-to-day basis, I think I deal pretty well with her delays, but it just broke my heart.

Yesterday, we went to a memorial service. I have to say, it was one of the best I've been to. It was only pictures, music, and funny stories about the man who had passed (a longtime family friend who worked with my dad for 20 years). There were some tears, but it wasn't overly sad. It was a true celebration of life, which was very cool.

Today, we're off to Waterbabies, then visiting my grandma (who is doing much better after her hospital stay). She lives about an hour away, so it will be a long day, but great to see her. My aunt and uncle will be there from Oregon, too.

Cheryl ~ (((((HUGS))))) I can't tell you how much therapy has helped me in my life, whether it be my m/c, TTC, being a mom, working through issues with DH, whatever. I think it is so beneficial, and I wish you luck in finding someone to talk to. xoxo

Cheryl- Oh what a way to end a bad day! I would have laughed too. I hope your single parent time goes by quickly. I hope you find a good therapist, face to face talking is always good.

Amy- I'm sorry ToT'ing wasn't fun :( Gabby is a beautiful girl and will do things when she's ready.

We had a pretty good weekend. Connor loved ToT'ing...both times and Olivia was really good until the end of both nights. We got a few pics of the kids in the leaves yesterday too. Connor actually let me take a couple of him. It was difficult though. Packing seems almost impossible with a 2yr old following me around and taking things out of the boxes! Ahhhh!!!!

 

    

Amy... Sounds like you had a fun time and everyone loved your costumes!!  I'm so sorry you got upset about Gabby's delays.  I know you're seeing some wonderful specialists and she'll get there!!  I know Ian's situation is a bit different... but DH found this great book called, The Einstein Syndrome by Thomas Sowell.  http://www.amazon.com/Einstein-Syndrome-Bright-Children-Talk/dp/0465081401  Bright Children Who Talk Late.  Ian totally fits the mold!!  He still can't say his name or say Trick or Treat.  I think certain kids just process things differently.  He doesn't feel the need to say those things yet.  But one day he will and I know Gabby will too!! 

Denyse... Glad your kiddos did so well TorTing!  And I can only imagine how tough it is to pack boxes.  Ian would do the same thing!

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Today has been a really busy day!  I was on my feet all morning running a meeting and I am wiped out.  Plus, I haven't felt too good this afternoon.  I need to go home and rest.

We had a pretty good weekend.  We took Jocelyn TorTing, I think she had a good time but she did get tired real quick.  I think she made it 4 blocks walking.  I told DH to get the wagon out but he was too lazy and hard to get her out of the stroller at each house.  So, the poor kid had to walk.  Although, she prefers to walk like a big girl!  She had a blast going up and down everyone's steps, goofy kid.  She did eventually catch on to what was going on, even though she cannot say trick or treat yet.  It was cute.  She would not let us get a good picture though.  She would not keep the hat on and we had to take the little booties off because it was wet outside.  It was still a lot of fun though.

Other than that we had a quiet weekend.  My mom was supposed to come down for a visit the end of the week but she threw her back out at work on Friday.  Get this, they cut the cleaning budget so she was moving boxes to clean up.  I bet after this workman's comp claim they might consider giving the cleaning budget back.  She will be out of work at least this week.  I hope she gets better soon, I was looking forward to her visit with us.

My level II is on Friday, it seems like this week will go by slow.  Well, its about time for me to go home for the day.  Have a good day!

Cheryl - ((HUGS))  I am glad Ian had a good time and you were able to relax a bit with your friend.  I think a therapist is a good idea.  It always helps to talk it out with someone.  Plus, a therapist will help you deal with the emotions an work through the grief.  There is never any shame in seeking help whenever needed.  I did after I lost the twins and it was the best thing for me.  ((HUGS))

Amy - ((HUGS)) to you too!  Jocelyn is almost 20 months and does not say hardly anything.  She said Daddy and just this week started saying Mommy.  Her pedi said she should be able to say at least 20 words by now, nope 2 maybe 3.  Who knows how that will turn out.  I know its hard but you are doing everything you can for Gabby.    She will begin talking at her own pace, I believe all kids develop at their own speed. 

Denyse - GL packing!  That would be Jocelyn, taking everything out of the boxes!  Glad your TorTing went well!

 

Thank you Cheryl (cheryl2005) - for the adorable siggy!