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Some advice for my 4 yr old please

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  6/10/2004 12:02 am

I almost threw up when I read this. As a matter of fact, I joined just to write to you. Please see this through. A child this young should not know about sex and would not make up being poked in his butt. THink about it! What if you were not involved in this and a friend was telling you. First, people may not believe you but when you lay in bed and think about the situation you should get furious and not care. Your son is not making this up. It will cause your family to be upset because this other child was molested as well. It makes people feel guilty and alot of times there are years of hidden abuse in families. However, the older child may have done this to other little children and isn't good enough at it yet to know how to shut the child up. Alot of times abusers use fear to stop children from sharing. This is so sickening and my heart goes out to you. Protect your son at all costs! I am so sorry and am going to pray for you and for your family to find healing. Please let us know what happens. P.S. The older child hopefully doesn't babysit! He has a long adolecence ahead of him and needs help.
 
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Some advice for my 4 yr old please

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  6/28/2004 2:08 am

When you say "there is more to this" and you are giving us just the basics, you don't even need to go further.

Family or not, your child has been abused, at the very least he watched somebody being abused or had it threatened against him. 4 year olds do not just make this stuff up. The older cousin or whoever obviously has a problem and needs help.

Be the competent, caring adult he needs that his mother refuses to be for him, and get him the help he needs.

Keep your child away from him but do not stop there. Wouldn't you feel sick if you found out later that this boy had done this to other children while you stayed silent about it?

Take your child to the doctor and explain what happened and ask them what THEY think about it. If they believe abuse took place, they are required by law to report it.

Since it's been awhile since you posted, please tell us what's going on now. I hope and pray you and your son are well. He may need counseling himself, as the bedwetting and the fear are signs he was traumatically affected by what has happened.

 
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