Cprincess,
I just want to say what a wonderful, amazing human being you are.
I read through this entire thread and I am just so proud of you for calling CPS and trying to help that little girl. Bless you...for SO many reasons!
I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and if just ONE person had cared enough to call CPS as you did--I may have avoided the years of therapy and pain that keeping the abuse a secret caused me. I have sat in countless survivor support meetings and heard hundreds of abuse survivor stories. You have NO idea how much of an amazing impact you could have on this child's life.
One of my therapists also counsels small children who have been abused. I acted out sexually as a small child too, and my therapist has taught me a lot about why children act out and what it means. She said that young children are not born with knowledge of sex and sexual activity. It is learned behavior. It is very likely, if not certain, that this child has been sexually abused or exposed to sex or pornography.
Furthermore, her mother's irrational, dysfunctional reaction to someone trying to help her daughter--is a huge red flag. I agree with the other poster who said that this woman may be abusing her daughter or she may know full well that this little girl is being abused. If someone called CPS regarding my daughter acting out sexually, the last thing I would feel is anger. I would feel grateful to someone for trying to help my child. This mother's reaction was about HERSELF. She seems to have no regard for feelings for this child. She finds out her daughter is probably being sexually abused, and all the woman can do is rage at people for bringing to light her daughter's pain??
Usually, with children who are sexually abused, the mother plays a very significant role as an abuser as well. The mother may be physically abusing her daughter, neglecting her or even sexually abusing her as well.
I'm just so proud of you for making the call. So proud. Maybe this little child will get help. Sometimes, there is no proof and possibly there won't be enough evidence of abuse. However, chances are this child IS being abused--and now there will always be a written record--for this little girl--that someone cared. In addition, I have no proof of my abuse. My perpetrators deny everything. What I wouldn't give to have some sort of documentation that backs up my claims. I have pretty much remained silent because I have no proof. Your call to CPS may be the documentation the little girl desperately needs later in life. She may come forward and tell her entire story and turn these people in--when she is stronger. Your report to CPS may help her to heal and also help her to obtain justice for herself.
On behalf of all survivors everywhere--I want to thank you for being an angel. If more people had your integrity, so many of us would be spared a great deal of pain.
Again....thank you,
Glo
