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  5/31/2004 9:25 am

Someone I know was sexually abused by her father for years as a child. I am not familiar with effect of child abuse as an adult. The person I am talking about is now in her late 20's and is just now seeking help since a few months ago. She babysits my child and now I'm not so sure it is a good idea that I have her babysit anymore. Can someone help please? Thanks.
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  5/31/2004 2:44 pm

I am sure that before you *knew* that she had been sexually assaulted you trusted her to care for your child and that her behavior with your child was appropriate.  Logic says that IF her behavior with your child wasn't appropriate then you would not have had her watching your child to start with. 

The only thing that appears to have changed between when she started watching your child and now is that you now *know* that she was sexually assaulted as a child  and that she is seeking help to deal with it so that she can have a happy, healthy adult life.  Many people don't ever seek counseling to help them deal with it. 

The only person who can make this particular decision is you and the only thing that you can base your decision on is your *feelings* about the safety of your child. 

There is a link at the top of the board that will take you to the website for the board where you will find information on the *possible* effects of being an abused child.  Some people have to deal with all of them and some have to deal with none of them. 

You might also want to post to the Parents Recovering From Childhood Abuse board  http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pschildhdabu with your question so that you have additional input from parents who were themselves abused as children. 

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