Pregnancy Loss

So I am going to a baby shower this weekend. I had rsvp'd while I was still pg.  It's for a really good friend who understands.  I was doing ok with it all until yesterday when I went to Target to buy the gift. Of course everything I looked for was not in stock.  So I finally found something but I don't know it hit me in the store that this shower might be hard.  I think deep down I knew it would be hard, I just did not want to think about it.  And the shopping made me do that. 

Anyway, if you could spare some 'I feel your pain' thoughts this weekend I'd appreciate it!

Hi Marie,

The same situation happend to me last year.  My sister in law was pregnant at the same time I was, and it was her first baby.  I ended up having a partial molar pregnancy, and had the D&C about 2 weeks before her baby shower.  I kept trying to be brave and telling myself and everyone else that I was happy for her and that this wasn't about me, and therefore I was set on going.  I realized afterwards that it probably would have been best to sit that one out, everyone would have understood.  I was too hard on myself and the shower was just horrible!!  And kind of embarassing since everyone there knew what I just went through, it was uncomfortable for me and other people.  Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have gone and it would have been okay.  Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  I just think sometimes we can be just a little too hard on ourselves!!

Michelle