Pregnancy Loss

My best friend found out she was pregnant about 2 months ago. Since she has a 3 and 1/2 month old the dr. wanted to do an ultrasound to make sure when she was due. She and her husband were very excited to be expecting again even though it was a little soon. During the first ultrasound two weeks ago the dr. told them that it looked like there was fluid in the baby's head and around its heart and that the intestines were on the outside. Of course the two of them were very upset and worried. The dr. told them to come back in two weeks for another ultrasound. I told her to try not to worry and that everything would be ok. Well she went yesterday for her other ultrasound. She found out that the baby's heart wasn't beating. She was scheduled for a procedure this morning to remove the baby. They are very upset which is perfectly understandable. She knows that I am here for her and her husband if they need anything at all. I wish they didn't have to go through this. I would give anything to take her pain away. I hate to see her hurting. Is being there enough or is there something else that I could do to help them?  

Just dont treat her differently or avoid her.  I know for a few weeks after I lost my baby all my friends kinda avoided me because they didn't know what to say or whether I was ready to be "normal".  I literally had to scream at them, I'm okay, lets hang out.

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear of what your friend is going through. 

My only suggestion is to continue being her friend.  Listen if she wants to talk.  Be ready with a hug if that is what she needs. 

Perhaps point her in the direction of this board if she's looking for support from people who know what she is going through or if she has any questions.

Just continue being her friend.  She is lucky to have someone like you who is there for her and is concerned for her.