Hello there.
This is the first time I have ever posted on or even looked at this board. I know it's ignorant of me, but I guess I just thought I would never have a reason to. :(
I recently found out I am pregnant for the third time. My first two pregnancies were perfect, and I now have two healthy, beautiful sons. This time I went into the doctor because I had gotten my period on time like normal but instead of it stopping like it is supposed to, I just kept on bleeding. Not heavily, and no cramping, but it certainly didn't stop. My doctor thought maybe it was an infection, and I thought maybe a hormone imbalance since I had also been overly tired lately as well. Well, I almost fell off the table at the office when the doctor told me I was pregnant! I had no idea. Normally my period is my indicator, since I am usually so regular. Since my period started when it was supposed to, they have no idea how far along I am.
Well, of course pregnant+bleeding usually doesn't equal good news. They said my cervix was closed (good, I guess?) and as far as I know there is no infection. They made me go get blood work immediately and an ultrasound the very next day. The tech said there was definitely a gestational sac, and she thought she could see a flicker of a heartbeat, although it was too faint yet to trace. I had to get more blood work done over the weekend and I have to go back to the doctor tomorrow. They also put me on progesterone because they said my levels of that were low. Basically, the doctor told me there was a 50/50 chance of the pregnancy continuing or miscarrying, but there was nothing they could do but wait. She did not sound too optimistic. They took me off work for the weekend, and told me to rest as much as possible. I've been trying, but the worry and the lack of anything I can do is killing me. Lately, the bleeding has been stopping for periods of time (sometimes as long as 12-15 hours) but then it always starts up again.
I just don't know what to do or think. My husband has been trying to be supportive, but his fear is that the bleeding means that something is going to happen to me or that there is something wrong with the baby. He doesn't want anything to happen to me, and he doesn't think we can handle a special needs child. We definitely weren't planning another child for a long time yet, but that certainly doesn't mean that I want to lose our baby either. It's hard for my husband to understand because he isn't an emotional person, but rationalizing the situation ("oh it happens to a lot of people" or "you didn't do anything wrong" or "its nature's way") doesn't make it hurt any less.
Thank you for listening. Sometimes I just need to get things off my chest, and since we don't know which way this is going to go, we aren't telling a lot of people yet.
-Chrysalis
