Parenting Two or More Kids

I know this is a stupid question; of course you love your children equally, right?  But is it different?  DH and I have been together 11 years (married for 3 yrs).  We have a son, 2 1/2 yrs old who has special needs (physical).  We had always wanted 2 children, but after DS was born we had second thoughts because of everything that was/is/will be going on with him.  We are starting to warm up to the idea of TTC#2, maybe in Jan/09, but DH seems to have concerns that he will not love #2 as much as he loves DS.  In a way I understand where he is coming from;  we have been through so much with DS, and he hold a very special place in our hearts.

Did anyone here have similar worries before #2 came along?  I hope to meet with a genetics counsellor for pre-conception testing, to hopefully calm my worries for something happening to #2.     

 

Just as Ramona and Dana have said, I love all of my children differently.  I do love each of them with all my heart.  They all have different personalities.  They are all growing with different goals and dreams.  It makes me happy to see how each of them are developing.  It is fun imagining how they will be when they are adults!

I understand how you feel.  You think #2 will not get quite as much attention.  You will be surprised at how much things will balance.  I have 6 kids.  Each one has their struggles.  Some with watching a family member struggle with bad decisions, others struggling in school, having ADHD, being small (FTT.  I remember seeing you on that board!).  I have enough room in my heart for them all along with all the good and the bad. 

((((HUGS)))) and ~BABY VIBES~ coming your way!