Saadia,
First off... I am sorry I didn't respond to your first post, I don't recall seeing it, but have been on pretty sporadic the past few months. So sorry!
As for me, I don't know. I think anything people did in ~Payton Jo's~ memory was special. We had one family member give a gaggle of geese for a third world coutry for some farming thing... & while I don't remember the specifics without going & looking thru our album. I do remember the gift & everytime I see anything Beatrix Potter, it reminds me of that & gives me a smile that people used her life to reach out & touch others. The card was kind of like the picture of Jemima Puddle-Duck by Beatrix Potter, so that is why I connect the two.
As for having gotten something from the hospital... not really sure there either. Our hospital gave us a precious box with a lock of her hair, a Bible with her footprint in the front, a little ring, the pair of socks they had put on her when she was born, the comb they used on her hair, and I think a couple other things. That they did specific things that we would treasure for a lifetime meant a lot. Just having things that were uniquely "her" is so awesome. I know that looking back and having those things later has been so special! At the time, it was all such a blur that I don't know that I would have noticed something about a tree. But later would have seen it and been touched. I would be mixed... having something I can hold & see means so much to me, but also knowing that the geese are out there somewhere blessing some other family is also special.
As far as finacially supporting something like this... probably not. Not because I don't believe it isn't worth it, but more because, we do stuff specific to our community. I try to reach out here, because that is where I feel my heart called to. I have worked to find things here, like writing a card to others who are going thru a loss, and I do it in memory of our daughter. I know that having total strangers reach out to me was such a blessing (we got an amazing card from a mom here in our town, who had went thru a very similar experience just a few months before us that was so special) & try to pass that on.
I think you need to follow your heart & do something that brings healing to your heart! Honestly, anything that honors & remembers our angels is so special!
Hope that helps.
Laura
